Guiding Sensory and Stimulatory Behaviors Toward Growth: The ‘Don’t Let Them’ Theory

Mel Robbins may have her “Let Them” theory — but when it comes to sensory and stimulatory behaviors that interfere with learning and growth, we’ve developed our own version: “Don’t Let Them.”In this episode, we unpack the overlap between sensory and stimulatory (stimming) behaviors — how they can look similar on the surface, but often serve different purposes. We talk about how sensory behaviors are often the body’s way of seeking or avoiding input, while stimulatory behaviors can be self-soothing or a form of communication. Understanding these differences is key to knowing when to allow, when to redirect, and how to use each moment as an opportunity for growth.Through stories from Alec’s journey and years of experience, we discuss how gently addressing certain sensory or stimming behaviors early on can open doors for learning, social participation, and independence later in life.It’s all about balance — supporting regulation and self-expression while also creating pathways for progress. With the right approach, “don’t let them” doesn’t mean stop them — it means guide them toward what’s next.Send us Fan Mail