Happily never After

...him telling her that he would be treating them to beautiful expensive accommodations she was deep in the process of investing in their imaginary future and this meant that she was becoming less able or think clearly by the day Little Red Riding Hood was told by her mother to bring a basket of food to her sick grandmother her mother warns her that the woods are dangerous and tells her to make sure she stays on the path she knows along the way Little Red Riding Hood comes across a wolf having never seen a wolf before she doesn't know to be careful since wolves are known to be untrustworthy the charms her into trusting him and she tells her about her Mission the wolf suggest that her grandmother might love some flowers and tells her about some beautiful ones just off the trail when Red Riding Hood goes off to find the flowers the wolf hurries off to eat her grandmother she puts on her clothes and gets into bed when she arrives the Girl Again proves gullible in that she doesn't through the wolf's disguise even though she senses that something's wrong her grandmother now has ears eyes Hands and Teeth that are too big although she can remark on her disbelief she's completely fooled and gets eaten as a result in the years since these events my mother has been on a journey to learn more about herself forgive her poor choices and try to understand why she participated in these toxic Dynamics for so long when we talk about it one of the words that keeps coming up is why didn't she see the wolf who was so clearly manipulating her and what's wrong with her ability to notice the red flags and act on them ability and Trust I usually defined next to each other because they're so related you can't have gullibility without trust but it's not the case the other way around some researchers in the field Define gullibility as trusting someone without having a or in spite of active evidence that they're not to be trusted humans are fallible it's normal for us to misjudge situations from time to time but gullibility refers to a pattern of being even in the presence of strong evidence that all isn't as it seems researcher Stephen Greenspan draws the distinction between gullibility and the related agility or the tendency to believe false information he says a key difference between gullibility and credulity is that gullibility typically involves some concrete action such as handing over a check to a con artist or marrying the same person for the third time despite a history of... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices