Healing is like an onion (has layers and will make you cry)

Send us Fan MailHealing doesn’t happen all at once – and it doesn’t move in a straight line. In this episode of The Daydreamer Podcast, I explore why healing is like peeling an onion: layer by layer, sometimes emotional, sometimes uncomfortable, and often revealing more than we expected.I talk about why old patterns can resurface even after years of inner work, why healing feels like moving backwards when it’s actually a spiral of growth, and how chasing “perfect healing” can keep us stuck. We explore the idea of healing to 80%, gaining awareness of the remaining 20% so it no longer unconsciously controls our choices.This episode also dives into shadow work beyond anger and jealousy – including hidden shame around vulnerability, softness, and emotional expression. I reflect on how relationships act as mirrors, how triggers can offer insight without self-blame, and why discernment is essential on any healing journey.If you’ve ever thought “I’ve already healed this – why is it back?”, this episode is for you.Topics covered: – Healing as a process, not a destination – The onion & spiral metaphors in emotional growth – Shadow work and emotional awareness – Relationships as mirrors – Letting go of healing perfectionismKasia Golda-Phillips