Dr. Unnatti Jain: Helping Your Teenager Through a High-Conflict Divorce

Teenagers are old enough to understand a divorce and not yet equipped to carry it. That gap is where a lot of quiet damage happens. In this episode, certified parenting coach Dr. Unnatti Jain, author of *A Parent Teen Journey*, joins Lisa to talk about a single shift: moving from control to connection.They look honestly at how a high-conflict separation shows up in a teenager's life, in grades, behavior, and mental health, and how it lands differently from puberty to college. Dr. Jain is direct about loyalty conflicts and why bad-mouthing backfires, makes the case for emotional availability and doing your own inner work, and unpacks the "language of silence" of a withdrawn teen. She explains why coaching, forward-looking rather than problem-diagnosing, can reach adolescents who resist therapy, and closes on the quiet danger of emotional neglect.This is strategic education, not clinical advice for your specific situation.✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN ✅ How a high-conflict divorce shows up in a teenager's grades, behavior, and mental health ✅ Why the impact differs from puberty to college age ✅ The "control to connection" shift that changes everything ✅ How loyalty conflicts trap kids, and why bad-mouthing backfires ✅ Why emotional availability matters most when it's hardest ✅ Why doing your own inner work reaches your teen more than any lecture ✅ The "language of silence," and how to read a withdrawn teenager ✅ Why coaching can reach teens who resist therapy⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper) 0:00 Intro 1:00 How divorce lands on teenagers 5:09 The real impact on children and teens 18:18 Loyalty conflicts, and why bad-mouthing backfires 27:23 Coaching to reconnect with a withdrawn teen 32:49 The quiet danger of emotional neglectCTA (spoken): Watching your teenager struggle through your divorce? Book a free discovery call at beentheregotout.com. Books: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183 · Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ Tags: teenagers and divorce, helping teens, parenting teens, loyalty conflict, emotional availability, control to connection, gen z, co-parenting, high conflict divorce