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EPISODE · Feb 22, 2026 · 10 MIN

Helping Without Becoming the Household Help Desk

from Dear Dr. Tracy · host Cloud10

Ever catch yourself saying, “I shouldn’t have to tell you this” and immediately feel your brain power leak out through your ears? In this bite-sized episode, Dr. Tracy names a sneaky mental load pattern: “renting mom’s brain.” It’s those constant micro-asks, where’s my hat, did you see my keys, what are we doing for dinner, that pull you out of your own task to manage someone else’s.Dr. Tracy breaks down how this becomes a self-feeding loop: the ask, your automatic solve, and then…more asks forever. She shares a recent “hat moment” with Greg that revealed the role of autopilot, plus practical, do-this-today steps to shift the dynamic without blame, shame, or turning your home into a cold war. LINKS FROM EPISODE: Grab the Weekly Intention for less than a cup of coffee a month. Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Apple Podcasts Link Are You On Relationship Autopilot? Spotify Podcast Link RESOURCES Get Relationship Support ⁠Inside ⁠⁠Be Connected⁠⁠⁠ Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠   ⁠⁠  Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. ⁠⁠Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ FOLLOW DR. TRACY Subscribe to the podcast⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/@drtracyd⁠⁠⁠ Follow on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd ⁠⁠⁠Follow on Facebook ⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrTracyD/⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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