High Achiever Hobbies: Why You Have No Life Outside of Work

"How do you find other outlets when you've always been a high performer? I've never developed hobbies or ideas outside of building my career." This question came up during a recent private event Q&A and the entire room nodded along. And honestly? I felt it too. Here's the truth: it's not about having hobbies for the sake of self-care. It's about finding what fulfills you and what restores you, and those are two very different things. In this episode I'm walking you through the exact questions I use to figure out whether you even need hobbies to begin with and how to find the right ones if you do.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Why hobbies feel so hard for high performers and why that makes complete sense Why the need to always be productive can be a trauma response and my personal experience with this Why loving your work so much it doesn't feel like work can actually be a hobby in disguise Why you might not need hobbies at all and how to know for sure The four questions I use to figure out what actually fulfills and restores you What activities energize you versus what activities wind you down and why both matter equally Why looking back at what you loved as a kid is one of the most powerful clues for what you need now How to figure out whether you need solo, introspective hobbies or connection-based ones How to identify whether your current work and life are already checking all the boxes My personal list of hobbies - from salsa dancing to cello to stop-motion Barbie videos - and what each season of my life needed   TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you find hobbies when you've always been a workaholic? 00:30 — Why it's not about hobbies for the sake of self-care - it's about fulfillment and restoration 01:00 — Why hobbies feel so difficult for high performers to engage with 02:00 — Why the need to always be productive can be a trauma response and my personal story 03:00 — Why loving your work so much it doesn't feel like work means your work might actually be your hobby 04:00 — The only time having no hobbies is actually a problem 04:30 — Question 1: What activities excite you and bring you energy today? 05:00 — My personal energy list: fitness, cooking, dancing and music 06:00 — Question 2: What activities calm you and reset your energy? 06:30 — My personal restoration list: reading, puzzles, coloring, drawing, beach, meditation 08:00 — Question 3: What activities did you love as a kid? 08:30 — My childhood list: sports, drawing, making videos, playing cello and piano 09:30 — Question 4: What relationships do you miss or crave building again? 10:00 — Why right now I crave solo hobbies and why my husband craves his bowling league 10:30 — How to figure out whether you need people-focused or introspective hobbies 11:00 — How do these activities fit into your work and life today? 12:00 — Why salsa dancing was the perfect hobby for me as a new single mom in corporate 13:00 — Recap: the full framework for figuring out whether you need hobbies and which ones 13:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie   NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo Substack: https://iamcorrielo.substack.com/ ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching   SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R