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EPISODE · Dec 17, 2025 · 27 MIN

How Can You Own Your Wanting When You Struggle with Erectile Dysfunction?

from Sex in Real Life with Stacey Herrera · host Stacey Herrera

This is the final episode in our 6-part series on erectile dysfunction.  Over the past five weeks, we've talked about the weight, the mechanics, the conversations, what partners experience, and sex beyond erections. But we haven't talked about… wanting. One casualty of ED is desire. You stop letting yourself want. No fantasizing or anticipation. No imagining or longing. You disconnect from this part of yourself because wanting something you don't think you can have feels too painful. But when you disconnect from desire to protect yourself from disappointment, you don't just lose sex. You lose something essential —aliveness. In this episode, Stacey explores how to let yourself want again. In this episode: How shutting down sexual desire bleeds all over your life The difference between arousal and desire Gifting yourself permission to want  Desire in its most valid form is to "own the wanting." You don't need a body that works like it used to. You just need to let yourself feel again.       💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

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