How Compassion Really Works (And How to Train It) | Paul Condon

What if compassion isn’t just something we feel—but something we can train?In this conversation, I sit down with social psychologist Associate Professor Paul Condon to explore his new book How Compassion Works (with John Makransky) and their evidence-based approach to Sustainable Compassion Training (SCT).We dive into a powerful idea: that we already have an innate capacity for love, compassion, and wisdom—but life experiences, attachment patterns, and our tendency to get caught in thoughts can pull us away from it.Paul shares a clear, practical framework for reconnecting with that capacity through three key modes of practice:. Receptive mode – learning to take in care and reconnect with a “secure base”. Deepening mode – shifting from reactive thinking to expansive awareness. Inclusive mode – widening compassion beyond our usual limitsWe also explore how to develop a “holding environment” for difficult emotions, the difference between love and compassion, and how this approach can help prevent burnout, empathic distress, and compassion fatigue.If you’ve ever struggled to stay compassionate without feeling overwhelmed—or wondered how compassion actually develops—this is a deeply insightful and practical conversation.Timestamps00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro02:31 Innate Compassion Explained05:59 Why We Lose Touch13:20 Equanimity and Holding Space17:56 Love vs Compassion23:14 Sustainable Compassion Training28:43 Receptive Mode Field of Care33:09 When Care Feels Inaccessible40:28 Deepening Mode Expansive Awareness49:37 Inclusive Mode Widening the Circle58:27 Avoiding Burnout and Distress01:05:21 Motivation and Daily Practice01:10:48 Closing Thoughts and ThanksLinks:Dr Paul Condon’s website:https://paulcondon.org/How Compassion Works (Makransky & Condon, 2025)https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Compassion-Works-Step-Step/dp/164547173X/Sustainable Compassion Training: Integrating Meditation Theory With Psychological Science (Condon & Makransky, 2020) Open Access article from Frontiers in Psychology.https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.02249/full If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/8zBzKtw25ew *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Hashtags:compassion training, mindfulness meditation, compassion fatigue, self compassion, psychology and wellbeing, burnout prevention