How Do You Tell the Difference Between Someone Who Is Righteously Offended by Homosexuality and a Bully?

Questions about how to tell the difference between someone who is righteously offended by homosexuality and a bully, and how to challenge cultural Christians to think more deeply about the Christian worldview when they complain about men wearing women’s dresses in public.   How do you tell the difference between someone who is righteously offended by homosexuality and a bully? How can I challenge my cultural-Christian friends to think more deeply about the Christian worldview when they complain about people dressing in bizarre ways in public (like men in women’s dresses)?