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EPISODE · Mar 13, 2025 · 1H 4M

How Perfectionism Makes Grief Harder

from At a Total Loss · host Katherine Lazar

Rio Richards, Grief & Trauma Recovery Therapist, is BACK to discuss all things grief. She opens up about what she struggles with after losing her father 4 years ago. We specifically talk about the 8 Ways That Perfectionism Makes Grieving Harder founded on an Instagram post that she made.Here's what we unpack:Constantly wondering if you're feeling the "right" thing at the "right" timeHiding your feelings because they don't feel "appropriate"Starting but never finishing memorial projects because nothing feels "worthy" enoughAvoiding support because you "should handle this on your own"Comparing your grief to others and always finding yourself lackingApologizing for talking about your loss or for "bringing everyone down"Exhausting yourself by trying to appear "strong" or "put together"Criticizing yourself for not being "over it" by some arbitrary timelineFollow Rio on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andthatsgrief/Substack: https://substack.com/@touchingthefire?utm_source=top-search BROUGHT TO YOU BY LOSSLINK.COM! Join today and find your loss mom posse!    *************************************NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions!For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops!Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop Instagram @thekatherinelazar Youtube: @thekatherinelazarEmail: [email protected]: www.katherinelazar.com Some helpful resources:https://countthekicks.org/https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/https://www.pushpregnancy.org/https://www.tommys.org/ Local to Atlanta:https://www.northsidepnl.com/ 

Rio Richards, Grief & Trauma Recovery Therapist, is BACK to discuss all things grief. She opens up about what she struggles with after losing her father 4 years ago. We specifically talk about the 8 Ways That Perfectionism Makes Grieving Harder founded on an Instagram post that she made. Here's what we unpack: 1) Constantly wondering if you're feeling the "right" thing at the "right" time 2) Hiding your feelings because they don't feel "appropriate" 3) Starting but never finishing memorial projects because nothing feels "worthy" enough 4) Avoiding support because you "should handle this on your own" 5) Comparing your grief to others and always finding yourself lacking 6) Apologizing for talking about your loss or for "bringing everyone down" 7) Exhausting yourself by trying to appear "strong" or "put together" 8) Criticizing yourself for not being "over it" by some arbitrary timeline Follow Rio on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andthatsgrief/ Substack: https://substack.com/@touchingthefire?utm_source=top-search BROUGHT TO YOU BY LOSSLINK.COM! Join today and find your loss mom posse! ************************************* NOTE: I am not a doctor or a therapist. The views of my guests are not always reflective of my own.  I am just a real life loss mom describing her experiences with life after loss. These are my experiences, and I'm putting it out there so you feel less alone. Always do your own research and make informed decisions! For more REAL TALK about baby loss and grief, hit subscribe to be notified when another episode drops! Support the podcast and shop the store!  At a Total Loss Shop  Instagram @thekatherinelazar  Youtube: @thekatherinelazar Email: [email protected] Website: www.katherinelazar.com   Some helpful resources: https://countthekicks.org/ https://www.measuretheplacenta.org/ https://www.pushpregnancy.org/ https://www.tommys.org/   Local to Atlanta: https://www.northsidepnl.com/

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Rio Richards, Grief & Trauma Recovery Therapist, is BACK to discuss all things grief. She opens up about what she struggles with after losing her father 4 years ago. We specifically talk about the 8 Ways That Perfectionism Makes Grieving Harder...

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