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EPISODE · Jul 2, 2026 · 39 MIN

How to Actually Build Self-Control (ELITE BALL KNOWLEDGE)

from The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon · host The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon

FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesA city without walls gets sacked. That's what your soul looks like without this one virtue, and most men have no idea they're living exactly like that.Self-possession sounds simple until you actually try to define it. Most guys think it just means white knuckling through temptation, gritting your teeth and surviving the day. But there's a massive difference between externally holding the line and actually being free on the inside, and that gap is where most men get stuck for years without realizing it.I break down Aristotle's distinction between continence and virtue, why fasting and cold showers only get you halfway there, and the exact daily practices that move you from fighting yourself every single day to actually winning the war internally.In this video I cover:-the Proverbs 25:28 analogy of a city without walls and what it means for your soul-the difference between external and internal temperance-why going to the gym six days a week doesn't make you disciplined-Aristotle's continent man versus the virtuous man-the four ways to build external self-possession-how prayer, confession, and accountability build internal self-possession-why white knuckling your way through Lent or a no fap streak isn't the same as being freeThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 What Is Self Possession0:24 Intellect Will And Senses3:29 Modern Men Possessed By Vice6:14 External Vs Internal Temperance9:22 Disciplined Body Disordered Life10:52 Continence Versus True Virtue13:12 Filling The Gap With God14:54 Internal Self Possession Defined16:32 Boethius And Losing Yourself18:43 How To Build The Virtue19:19 Fasting To Build Self Control21:05 Setting Firm Boundaries23:36 Structuring Your Environment26:42 Prayer Fills The Internal Gap29:09 Sitting In The Friction30:32 Examination Confession Accountability34:16 Full Commitment To Virtue38:20 Join The Legion Community39:43 Final Thoughts And Blessing

FOLLOW ME ON RUMBLE IN CASE I GET BANNED: https://rumble.com/c/tomasmonesA city without walls gets sacked. That's what your soul looks like without this one virtue, and most men have no idea they're living exactly like that.Self-possession sounds simple until you actually try to define it. Most guys think it just means white knuckling through temptation, gritting your teeth and surviving the day. But there's a massive difference between externally holding the line and actually being free on the inside, and that gap is where most men get stuck for years without realizing it.I break down Aristotle's distinction between continence and virtue, why fasting and cold showers only get you halfway there, and the exact daily practices that move you from fighting yourself every single day to actually winning the war internally.In this video I cover:-the Proverbs 25:28 analogy of a city without walls and what it means for your soul-the difference between external and internal temperance-why going to the gym six days a week doesn't make you disciplined-Aristotle's continent man versus the virtuous man-the four ways to build external self-possession-how prayer, confession, and accountability build internal self-possession-why white knuckling your way through Lent or a no fap streak isn't the same as being freeThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fftkingdom.com/the-legionFFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → https://fftkingdom.com/1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://forgevirtue.com/Find out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 What Is Self Possession0:24 Intellect Will And Senses3:29 Modern Men Possessed By Vice6:14 External Vs Internal Temperance9:22 Disciplined Body Disordered Life10:52 Continence Versus True Virtue13:12 Filling The Gap With God14:54 Internal Self Possession Defined16:32 Boethius And Losing Yourself18:43 How To Build The Virtue19:19 Fasting To Build Self Control21:05 Setting Firm Boundaries23:36 Structuring Your Environment26:42 Prayer Fills The Internal Gap29:09 Sitting In The Friction30:32 Examination Confession Accountability34:16 Full Commitment To Virtue38:20 Join The Legion Community39:43 Final Thoughts And Blessing

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