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EPISODE · Nov 30, 2025 · 42 MIN

How To Balance Your Relationship With God And Being Gay: The Journey To Peace

from You Can Be Both · host Lauren Lanzaretta

Can you be gay and still love Jesus? Can you be LGBTQ+ and Christian? Yes—and this episode of You Can Be Both walks through exactly how. 🏳️‍🌈✝️In this honest, vulnerable conversation, I share my journey of balancing my relationship with God while being gay—and how I moved through deconstruction, becoming conscious, and reconstruction of my faith. If you’re a gay Christian, queer Christian, LGBTQ+ believer, or someone with church hurt or religious trauma, this is for you.We talk about:-Why you can be both LGBTQ+ and Christian-How I deconstructed beliefs about hell, patriarchy, Sodom and Gomorrah, and “clobber verses”-The historical context of the Bible, patriarchy, and how sexuality was viewed 2,000 years ago -Why many teachings about homosexuality in the Bible were about power, patriarchy, and abuse—not loving, consensual LGBTQ+ relationships-What it really means to be Christlike vs. just wearing the label “Christian”-How childhood wounds, trauma, and church culture shape how we see God, ourselves, and other people-Letting go of shame and seeing God as compassionate, loving, and not out to punish you-How loving, healthy, same-sex relationships can actually draw us closer to God🧱 3 Big Parts of This Episode:1️⃣ Deconstruction – Questioning what we were taught about:    •    Hell, eternal punishment & fear-based salvation    •    The patriarchy in Scripture and how women were treated as property   •    Sodom and Gomorrah, rape vs consensual sex, and what the text actually says2️⃣ Becoming Conscious –   •    Seeing our patterns, trauma, and “stories” we carry from childhood    •    How we project unhealed pain into our relationships    •    Why being a Christian means doing the work: therapy, self-reflection, growth, and learning to truly love people3️⃣ Reconstruction –    •    Rebuilding faith around Jesus’s character: justice, mercy, compassion, and inclusion    •    Asking: “Is this destructive or is this life-giving?” instead of “Is this on a rule list?”    •    Understanding that a loving, affirming gay relationship can be holy, healthy, and aligned with God’s heartIf you’ve ever asked:    •    “Is it a sin to be gay?”    •    “Can I be gay and still be a Christian?”    •    “Does God hate me for being LGBTQ?”    •    “How do I heal from religious trauma and church hurt?”…this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in knowing you can be both. 💛👇 ✨ You are loved. You are not broken. You can be both.If this resonated with you:    •    Drop a comment and share where you’re at in your faith and sexuality journey    •    Turn on notifications so you don’t miss new episodes    •    Share this with a gay Christian, someone with religious trauma, or a friend who’s deconstructing🔔 Subscribe for weekly encouragement, faith exploration, healing conversations, and LGBTQ Christian support.To submit your own testimony or question click this link: https://bit.ly/49G1tpzFor sponsorship opportunities email: [email protected]. Follow my other socials on TikTok and Instagram!‪@YouCanBeBoth‬ ‪@LaurenLanzaretta‬ #LGBTQ #Faith #YouCanBeBoth #laurenlanzaretta #Christianity #SelfAcceptance #ComingOut #Spirituality #Healing #authenticity

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