How To Break The Cycle of Repeating The Same Relationship

Most relationship patterns are not random - they are rehearsals of old wounds. Violet Lange reveals how trauma, attachment style, and embodiment shape who you attract, why chemistry can feel addictive, and what actually helps you build the kind of love that lasts.Favour opens the conversation with Violet's own journey from corporate life to relationship coaching, and Violet shares how heartbreak, childhood trauma, and years of trying to get love from the outside pushed her toward self-awareness, healing, and deeper intimacy. From there, the episode gets practical fast, showing why people keep repeating the same painful dynamics even when they know better.You'll discover why you may be drawn to partners who mirror the emotional environment you grew up in, how to tell the difference between real connection and a fantasy of being healed by someone else, and why extreme highs and lows in dating can be a red flag. Violet also breaks down the four attachment styles - anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure - and explains how nervous system regulation and honest communication can move you toward more secure love.We also get into what it means to be embodied in a relationship, how physical sensations map to emotions like shame, fear, and anger, and why staying in your head can make intimacy harder. Violet shares a powerful communication tool for dating - "I feel, I want" - plus a simple weekly "clear the air" conversation that can reduce resentment before it builds into distance.If you're dating online, recovering from heartbreak, feeling stuck in old patterns, or trying to understand why closeness feels difficult, this episode gives you a grounded roadmap. Violet also explains how to think about intimacy in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, what healthy space looks like, and how self-awareness creates the conditions for lasting partnership.Violet Lange is a professionally trained relationship coach, yoga teacher, and spiritual practitioner who helps people heal heartbreak, transform old patterns, and create deeper, more fulfilling relationships. She also shares her upcoming six-week Love Harmonics program at violetlang.com/loveharmonics.Essential listening if you're ready to stop repeating the past and start creating love from a more secure, self-aware place.Connect with Violet via her website https://violetlange.com/ She’s also on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/violetlange as well as Facebook https://www.facebook.com/violetlange1