How to Build a Support System When You Feel Like You Have No One

Most high performers don't lose their community. They outgrow it. After my divorce, I found myself a newly single mom of a five-month-old in a brand-new neighborhood on Long Island - two counties and a 45-minute train ride away from every friend and every person who had ever supported me. And not one of them understood abuse, divorce or single motherhood. I wasn't lacking people. I was lacking the right people for the season of life I was in. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how I built my community from scratch - including the Facebook group story that started it all and the step-by-step framework you can use to do the same, even if you're an introvert or ambivert like me. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE: Why most high performers don't lose their community - they outgrow it My personal story of starting over on Long Island after leaving an abusive marriage and how a random Facebook post changed everything Why community isn't something you find - it's something you build Why getting specific about what you need is the fastest way to build the right community How to identify exactly who you need more of in your life right now Why your support system doesn't always have to be free and why that's perfectly okay Real examples of what community building looks like after a loss, a promotion or having a baby How to network strategically - not broadly - to find the right people for the life you're building Why following up within a week is the difference between a connection and a missed opportunity How to nurture relationships so they become win-wins for everyone involved How to know when it's time to outgrow a relationship and why that's healthy TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — The question that sparked this episode: how do you build a community when you don't have one? 00:30 — Why most high performers outgrow their community rather than lose it 01:00 — My personal story: newly single mom, new neighborhood, zero community 02:00 — Why having people around you isn't the same as having the right people 03:00 — The Facebook group story: how one comment changed everything 05:00 — How the South Shore Single Moms group grew from beach meetups to wine tours and big events 05:45 — What that community did for me when I was burning out from a 20-hour weekly commute 06:00 — Community isn't found. It's built. 06:30 — Why getting specific about your needs is the fastest path to the right community 07:00 — How to think about your personal board of advisors and who fills those roles 07:30 — Why your support system can include people you pay and why that's not a cop-out 08:00 — What community building looks like after losing a loved one 09:00 — What community building looks like after a big promotion 09:30 — What community building looks like after having a baby 11:00 — How to network strategically online groups, in-person events, associations and more 12:00 — Why following up within a week is non-negotiable 12:30 — How to build and nurture relationships that are win-wins for everyone 13:00 — Full recap: how to find your people and build your circle from scratch 13:30 — How to grab The Five Overwhelm Culprits™ book + ways to work with Corrie NEXT STEP OPTIONS: ✔️ Take the Overwhelm Culprit Quiz: www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculprit ✔️ Order my book: http://www.corrielo.com/overwhelmculpritbook ✔️ Connect with Me on Social: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/iamcorrielo Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/iamcorrielo Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/iamcorrielo LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/iamcorrielo YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/iamcorrielo TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iamcorrielo ✔️ Visit my Website: www.corrielo.com ✔️ Book me to Speak: www.corrielo.com/speaking ✔️ Enroll in Coaching: www.corrielo.com/coaching SUBSCRIBE FOR MORE: Don't miss future episodes where we dive deeper into topics like leadership, personal growth, and turning challenges into opportunities. Hit that subscribe button and join the journey to confident leadership! ✔️ Subscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify ✔️ Subscribe on YouTube Podcasts: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2iLLfzM7QKFoP2JFPE41hUl1SVHcH3IF&si=Fk3ZsBem6xBLRF1R