How To Break Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton on Chris Williamson

Emotional Intelligence, Daily. Start now: https://www.theschooloflife.com/subscription/ This is an original podcast from @ChrisWillx uploaded with their permission to The School of Life. If you liked this please check out their other content. Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: http://www.x.com/chriswillx Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/ Expect to learn: where bad inner voices come from, why we struggle to connect with our emotions, if there is a danger of intellectualising too much, Alain’s advice for obsessive people who want to let go, advice for an anxious person dealing with an avoidant one, why we get stuck in unhappy relationships, how to improve your self worth and much more… Unlock all the content of The School of Life with a subscription to our podcast, articles, videos, and exercises, specially tailored to your needs. - 00:00 Where Do Bad Inner Voices Come From? 08:22 Healing a Negative Inner Voice 22:31 Why Do We Struggle to Fully Connect With Our Emotions? 28:14 The Danger of Intellectualising Emotions 36:01 Letting Go as an Obsessive Person 43:06 Openness & Transparency in Relationships 52:13 Advice for People in an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship 58:37 How Malleable Are Attachment Styles? 1:08:42 Embracing Playfulness in a Serious World 1:12:26 How Childhood Impacts Adult Relationships 1:16:02 Why People Get Stuck in Unhappy Relationships 1:22:33 Our Tendency to People-Please 1:29:59 Taking Ownership of Your Patterns 1:37:12 Are Deep Thinkers More Lonely? 1:41:05 What Drives Alain? 1:51:51 Where to Find Alain Get weekly insights for better relationships, deeper self-knowledge, and inner calm straight to your inbox. Sign up for more ideas, plus 10% off your first shop order: https://www.theschooloflife.com/signup/ OUR COLLECTIONS https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcEwc0qydf2jSszQFSht81E https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpckOvZZ_AZjD7WM2p9-6NBv https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeUL1vz9Su7OmeghBDgmj7X https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpeypJMHfNbJ4RAFkRtmAN3P https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28XmpcpxBm1RoGRx4mVKNRIrKkG https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpcp7jXVszdNruKUtHZ2zuZb https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpfv2COuuJaKzy6E2n8nSMdi https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwxNMb28Xmpc1qCJ6RYYh4rKNOOlKtFIK SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theschooloflifelondon/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/the-school-of-life/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theschooloflife?lang=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices