How To Handle Conflict
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Every time you get triggered, in a split second, you separate from yourself. All without even knowing. That’s why there’s a physical pain involved. I have always prided myself on being intelligent, knowing exactly what to do and to make good, rational decisions. That is, only when my brain is working. When our nervous systems get activated, then 3/4 of our brain goes “offline” and all “rational education” gets thrown out the window. That’s what happens in the Nervous System. But on a spiritual level — it’s as if the soul leaves the body in search of safety and protection — only somewhere else. Another way to look at it: We abandon ourselves. In these split-second moments, conflict between 2 people escalates. People get hurt physically and emotionally. We’ve all been there. One of the skills never taught to us in school, nor from our parents, is the ability to reverse the conditioned “separation from self” that happens when our Nervous Systems get activated. Without this skill, relationships become destroyed, conflict turns into chaos, Stress turns into Chronic “Anxiety And Health turns into burnout and chronic fatigue And safety turns into avoidance behavior. Becoming Triggerproof became the most important skill to master when it came to healing my relationships, and becoming a container where secure relationships can thrive. Without this skill, we are at the mercy of others, praying for someone to save us, hoping no one will upset us, putting on a facade and feeling lonely… Even if we are in a relationship. The biggest obstacle is the fear of looking inside and not liking what we see. If you’re ready to master the art of conscious conflict by mastering the conflict that takes place internally when your Nervous System gets activated and turn self-abandonment into deeper connection with yourself, jump in to our Facebook community, and join us at our upcoming Breathwork and Badassery / Overview Experience and learn how to untangle from the “Drama Triangle” that you find yourself in with every conflict you’ve ever been in. Upcoming Masterclass "SHOULD I STAY OR GO?" Live Event (Every month) If you’re stuck in limbo, in repetitive relationship patterns, same arguments, attracting the same patterns, and you want to gain the clarity, confidence, and Courage to create secure relationships Upcoming Overview Experience Virtual Event (Every month) Dissolve your current relationship resentment, heal your attachment wounds, resolve your past and bring clarity to your next step. Or if you are wanting to hop on a call and discuss how we can support you through your transition and you're wanting deeper guidance on your healing journey and you're ready to break the cycle of inter-generational trauma (divorce, separation, relationship limbo, past trauma spilling into present) Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis: Are you on Telegram? Click here to join my channel for some TriggerProof wisdom to keep your nervous system regulated, your soul in your body, and your heart aligned with your purpose.
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Every time you get triggered, in a split second, you separate from yourself. All without even knowing. That’s why there’s a physical pain involved. I have always prided myself on being intelligent, knowing exactly what to do and to make good, rational decisions. That is, only when my brain is working. When our nervous systems get activated, then 3/4 of our brain goes “offline” and all “rational education” gets thrown out the window. That’s what happens in the Nervous System. But on a spiritual level — it’s as if the soul leaves the body in search of safety and protection — only somewhere else. Another way to look at it: We abandon ourselves. In these split-second moments, conflict between 2 people escalates. People get hurt physically and emotionally. We’ve all been there. One of the skills never taught to us in school, nor from our parents, is the ability to reverse the conditioned “separation from self” that happens when our Nervous Systems get activated. Without this skill, relationships become destroyed, conflict turns into chaos, Stress turns into Chronic “Anxiety And Health turns into burnout and chronic fatigue And safety turns into avoidance behavior. Becoming Triggerproof became the most important skill to master when it came to healing my relationships, and becoming a container where secure relationships can thrive. Without this skill, we are at the mercy of others, praying for someone to save us, hoping no one will upset us, putting on a facade and feeling lonely… Even if we are in a relationship. The biggest obstacle is the fear of looking inside and not liking what we see. If you’re ready to master the art of conscious conflict by mastering the conflict that takes place internally when your Nervous System gets activated and turn self-abandonment into deeper connection with yourself, jump in to our Facebook community, and join us at our upcoming Breathwork and Badassery / Overview Experience and learn how to untangle from the “Drama Triangle” that you find yourself in with every conflict you’ve ever been in.
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