How To Make/Break Your Shitty Habits And Take Control Of Your Life With Tayla Bubeck

Send us Fan Mail Change gets easier when it stops being punishment and starts being honest. We sit down with business coach Tayla Bubeck to unpack why willpower fails, how shadow work reveals the hidden needs behind our habits, and the values first approach that turns intentions into evidence. From weight loss that lasts to building a business you actually want to run, we move past shame and into a practical, humane framework. Tayla walks us through a be do have pyramid that begins with values and identity, then adds beliefs and stories, the right skills, and finally behaviours and environment. We talk about shadow desires (the sneaky opposites of your stated values) that keep you loyal to old patterns. You’ll hear how to use compassionate inquiry to find the real need your habit was meeting, then meet that need in a better way. No fluff, no hustle theatre, just clear steps that lower friction and build momentum. Expect actionable tools: micro habits that are too small to fail, skill stacking to reduce excuses, and a simple process for returning after a slip without spiralling. We also get real about readiness, agency, and the social cost of growth: why some relationships fade when you stop bonding over struggle, and how to set standards without forcing anyone to change. If you’re craving a reset that respects your humanity, this conversation offers a path from self-judgement to self respect. BONUS RESOURCES: Tayla's BE DO HAVE Model Tayla's Shedding System 👆🏻 Use code "SHADOWDIARIES" for a sneaky discount Tayla's Instagram Reach out to us on Instagram! Steph is here and Lurinda is here.