How to Manage During this Crisis with Mary Hyatt

This week we are welcoming back to the podcast, my wonderful friend Mary Hyatt. For those of you who don’t know, Mary is my coach and she has also become one of my closest friends. We are going to be talking about what we can all do during this crisis, to hopefully bring you some comfort and support. KEY TAKEAWAYS COVERED IN THE PODCASTWe are all experiencing something collectively – Everything feels very “off”.Our batteries are being drained – emotionally and mentally.We respond to stress in lots of different ways – Denial, Over-eating, Over-drinking. This is all about distracting ourselves from what is really going on.There are also other ways we respond to stress which can be highly emotional – Hyper Sensitivity, Anxiety, Depression.We are processing so much more information right now, it is understandably draining!Don’t expect as much from yourself during this time.Comparative suffering is adding shame and judgement whilst thinking about what you are feeling.We are all allowed to feel how we feel during this – This could be emotions such as Overwhelm, Exhaustion, Anxiety, Grief.We can only extend to others, what we are giving ourselves.There is not any “right way” to go through this.You get to choose what you do during this time, no one else.Be gentle and compassionate with yourself.We need to continue to bring in income the best we can right now.Think about how you can meet needs that are there and add value to people.You need to connect with people on a deeper level right now.Value yourself, you have skills that can make others thrive. Recognise that you have information that other people wish they had.Find meaning and purpose in the midst of all of this.You are in control of how your mind interprets this. Try to think “What can this make possible?”Look for the good things in every day. Be grateful for absolutely everything you have.Shifting the focus on what we have, multiplies it.Journaling – Write it down and then flip it so it comes from love instead of anger.Get out all of your feelings on paper – You can just throw it away or burn it if you want to.Utilise these free tools!Give yourself permission to rest, nurture yourself and ask yourself “what do I need?”THE ONE THING YOU NEED TO REMEMBER ABOVE ALL ELSE…Be gentle on yourself during this time, don’t put pressure on yourself to be achieving things just because you are being told you need to, whether that’s because other people are saying it or you may be telling yourself. You are allowed to feel anxious, angry, depressed, frustrated right now and it is okay if you can’t quite function how you normally would. But remember, this will not last forever.HIGHLIGHTS YOU SIMPLY CAN'T MISSAn introduction to Mary Hyatt – 04:38The impact of the pandemic – 07:53Comparative Suffering – 21:05Expectations – 25:55Selling during this time – 33:43Tools that can help you – 45:15Transcript below Hello, and welcome to today's episode of the podcast. How are things going? You know what? I so genuinely mean that, because this time is so crazy tough for us ll, for lots of different reasons. I'm going to jump straight into today's episode, because today I decided to bring back a previous guest. Now, I thought this was the first time I had done this, but it actually turns out that Biz Paul has been on twice. Although technically, the second time he came on, he interviewed Paul and I for episode 100.I think this is technically the first time I've had someone in that I've interviewed twice. So, I would like to welcome back to the podcast, my very beautiful, wonderful and smart friend, Mary Hyatt. As you know, Mary Hyatt is my coach, and has been my coach for some time, and I am very lucky that I now get to call Mary my friend, and we get to spend time with her in Nashville, or we did before all this happened, and she's been over here in the UK to see me.Honestly, my husband and I love her and Bentley dearly. The fact that, A, she's a friend is one thing, two, she's my coach is another, but three, she honestly is so very smart when it comes to dealing with times that are tough. Mary has helped me through more things than I care to remember during the time that we've worked together. So, there was no one better to have on to talk to you guys to help you through this time.Obviously, I've done a few different episodes. I did the motivation one, and I did the one that was kind of the special one just to say I am acknowledging it. But, today I wanted to bring Mary on, because actually if anybody can help me through these tough times with some good practical advice, and some gentle love, then she is the woman for the job. That's why I've brought her on. I'm going to not go on any longer. You know who Mary is. I'm going to link up to her in the show notes. She's truly wonderful. You need to check her out. I hope you enjoy today's episode, and I hope it brings you some comfort and some support.Please do come and tag us both in, because I want Mary to see the difference she makes not only in my world, but everybody else's. I hope you enjoy today's episode.I am very excited about today's episode. Because, although I've had this amazing lady on before, I am still super excited to bring her back to you. Welcome back to the podcast, Mary Hyatt.Woot woot! It's like round two. Second season.I know. Ching ching! Do you know what-I'm so happy to be here.What was funny was, I was telling Biz Paul, before we recorded that I was getting you back on and I was recording an episode. I said, "She's the only person who's ever been on the podcast twice." I was like, "Oh no, hang on Biz Paul, you have." Because of course he came on and did an episode, and then he came on and did the 100th episode where he interviewed Paul and I.That was such a great episode.He's great. He is, honestly. This is his job. He should totally be an interviewer type, presenter type thing. He loves it.Oh, yeah. And I also secretly want him to be my best friend, so if you could kind of just give him the nudge that if he's looking for more friendships.That is so funny. Honestly, you're going to think I'm making this up, but right before this I said, "Listen, Mary's coming into the group to do some stuff. Do you want to come in the group? I'll let you in to come and see what Mary's doing." "I love Mary," he said. He loves you.I just adore him.It's like a little romance.He's so funny. An introduction to Mary Hyatt I'm so glad to bring the two of you together. He is funny. He is funny. And he's our sense of humour. Anyway, these people are listening to this going, "Get on with it, people." As you know, and as I've just said, I have had the lovely Mary on before. But I'm just going to get Mary to introduce herself a little bit, in case you happened to miss the episode, which I will link up to the show notes. Then we will get on with today's episode. Mary, go ahead and tell everybody who you are, and why you're so wonderful.Thank you. I am a life and mindset coach, and my favourite people to work with are high achieving entrepreneurs who are looking to find ways to bring some flow back into their hustle game. Because I think oftentimes we think we have to grind it out, work ourselves to the point of burnout and exhaustion. That's usually at the point where my clients find me is they're going, "Okay, my business is taking off, but my life is in shambles, or I'm just totally at the end of my rope. My relationships aren't that great. How do I get back to that place of really thriving in all areas of my life?That's when I come in and go, "Okay, let's take a look at some of this mindset stuff. Let's take a look at what is controlling the show behind the scenes," and help people really get to a place of living fully alive connected to their emotions, connected to their bodies, connected to their intuition, and really create just a powerful presence in their own life. I have a podcast that comes out every week, where we get into a lot of this mindset work. I also offer guided meditations to help people just create a new sense of awareness and consciousness that just aids in this ability to live fully alive, present for your life. Kind of a few little different hats, but all around consciousness and mindset.Perfect. What was interesting is when I started off with Mary, I knew I needed something. I didn't know what it was. Even when Mary was like, "Yeah, I can do this. I can help," I still didn't actually know what, or where or how. I didn't get the details. The funny thing is, now I look back and think I didn't have to get the details. I didn't need to know those things. The stuff you taught me, and the stuff that we worked through, and looked at, and the way you made me think, which was probably the biggest change in everything has changed and affected everything going forward.The reason I wanted Mary on today's podcast, and why I was so keen to hurry up and do this as quickly as possible is because since, and we're recording this at the time, I've been on lockdown for like two weeks, I think. I'm in my second week. You've been on lockdown for about two weeks as well, haven't you?Yeah.Because of the Coronavirus, and everything that's going on with that. What's interesting is like I have been fine. I've been happy, and fairly calm, and relaxed about it all. The only thing I can put it down to is all this work I've done with Mary. All this...