How to move forward after a regret you can’t undo

In this week's audio newsletter, we explore what it means to be consumed by regret when there’s no do-over—especially when that regret feels moral, unforgivable, and identity-shattering. We look at why common advice like “learn from it and move on” often falls flat, and what actually helps instead. You’ll hear three stuck points that keep us trapped in suffering: 1) believing that moving on means it didn’t matter, 2) that you don’t deserve relief, and 3) that self-punishment proves you’re a good person, and how to gently loosen our grip, so what happened can still matter without having to hurt forever. Get full access to How to Be Good to Yourself When You're Hard on Yourself at ellenhendriksen.substack.com/subscribe