Lynn Price: How to Negotiate With a Toxic Ex

Lynn Price once walked away from a negotiation and left real money on the table on purpose. After twenty-five years and more than eleven thousand negotiations as a corporate attorney, she did it because the conflict was making her sick and she valued peace more, and she calls that a strategic decision, not a defeat.Lynn Price is a negotiation speaker, trainer, and author, and an attorney who spent over two decades as in-house corporate counsel. Across roughly eleven thousand negotiations she started noticing patterns and turned them into a simple, memorable formula she calls the three Rs. Her book, Negotiate It!, breaks the whole skill down.In this episode, Lynn and Lisa adapt that formula for a toxic ex you feel powerless against. They work through being Ready, Relatable, and Reasonable, and Lynn's system of sorting every want into three buckets: your have-to-haves, your helpful-haves, and your hopeful-haves, the ones you can trade away. She explains why you make the ask even when the other side holds the leverage, why you make it and then stop talking, and a line she learned early: if it feels good to say it, don't.They trade the moves Been There Got Out teaches too, anchoring to a shared goal, never asking or answering why, and never letting your ex see how much you want something. Lynn is practical about how to build the skill: practicing out loud in front of a mirror or a camera so your words and your face do not give you away, and even rehearsing with AI. Her core message is that negotiation is learnable, not a personality trait, and preparation is what turns fear into confidence.As always, this is strategic education, not legal or mental-health advice for your specific situation.🎓 What you'll learnThe three Rs of negotiation: being Ready, Relatable, and ReasonableHow to sort every want into have-to-haves, helpful-haves, and hopeful-havesWhy you make the ask even when the other person holds the leverageWhy you should make your ask and then stop talkingThe rule "if it feels good to say it, don't," and how to use a pauseWhy you never ask or answer "why" with a difficult exHow to prepare by practicing out loud, recording yourself, even rehearsing with AI⏱️ Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:00 Negotiation vs. mediation, and Lynn's 11,000 deals 3:00 The three Rs, and confidence from small wins 5:00 Leverage is perception: you still get to make the ask 9:00 Prioritizing your ask: the three buckets 13:00 Being relatable, and anchoring to common ground 15:00 Make the ask, then go silent 17:00 "If it feels good to say it, don't" 19:00 Being reasonable, and never asking or answering "why" 27:00 The price of peace, and cost-benefit 29:00 Preparing: practice out loud, record yourself, even AIKeep going 💜 Book a free 30-minute discovery call and we'll help you map your next steps: https://beentheregotout.com/call 📘 Been There Got Out: Toxic Relationships, High-Conflict Divorce, and How to Stay Sane Under Insane Circumstances — https://www.amazon.com/dp/194627495X 📘 Been There Got Out: When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You (our parental-alienation book) — https://www.amazon.com/dp/1967674183 🔗 Lynn Price at Lynn Price Consulting: https://lynnpriceconsulting.com/ 🔗 Negotiate It! by Lynn Price (Amazon): https://www.amazon.com/Negotiate-Develop-Negotiation-Muscle-Workplace/dp/0692152539About Been There Got Out Chris Barry and Lisa Johnson are high-conflict divorce, custody, and co-parenting strategists, and the founders of Been There Got Out. They know these cases from the inside: both have successfully represented themselves in family court. Few attorneys have a playbook for a case like this — Chris and Lisa write yours with you, so you and your kids can get through it as unscathed as possible.