How to respond instead of react

Do you know how to respond instead of react? This is one of the most common mistakes we all make in relationships, we react instead of respond. When your spouse is upset at you for something and tells you about it, chances are you feel he/she is attacking you and your react. When you react you get defensive, start explaining, excusing yourself and perhaps blaming someone else. When you choose to respond you stop and think for a moment and then respond with something that will be helpful. John Maxwell teaches that all of us carry two buckets with us, one with water and the other with gasoline. When  you react and get defensive, it's like pouring gas on a fire. But when you respond instead of react, you pour water on the fire. Following this suggestion will save you a lot of problems in your marriage.  This video will not only tell you what to do, it will equip you to do it. You will learn how to respond instead of react.  Let me know what you think by leaving a comment,  share and subscribe.   You are also invited to join my free Facebook group. It's called Turn it Up! - a group about relationships and marriage. Here's the link: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup  For more free resources, go to https://turnitup.coach/helpful-tools/