Turn it Up! Marriage Tips and Tools

7 Habits Wives Wish Their Husbands Had Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPée shares seven practical habits he says wives most often wish their husbands practiced, drawn from over 1,000 hours of coaching and 38 years of marriage, emphasizing this is not about guilt but growth. The habits are: care about your wife by truly listening and supporting her; don’t get defensive when she raises concerns and offer a real apology using his “five R” method; always tell the truth to protect trust; make her feel special by prioritizing her with thoughtful attention; do what you say you’ll do to build reliability; strengthen connection by asking about closeness, planning time together, and speaking her love language; and be her partner through emotional openness, shared problem-solving, and spiritual growth. He encourages husbands to self-evaluate, ask their wives for feedback, start with one habit, and offers a free 30-minute strategy call and a free communication guide.00:00 What Wives Wish You Knew00:54 What You'll Learn Today01:20 Meet Your Coach01:57 Free Resources And Calls02:40 No Guilt Just Growth03:52 Habit 1 Care About Her05:34 Habit 2 Drop Defensiveness07:37 Habit 3 Tell The Truth08:36 Habit 4 Make Her Special09:51 Habit 5 Keep Your Word11:01 Habit 6 Build Connection12:55 Habit 7 Be True Partners14:31 Put One Habit Into Action15:31 Get Help And Next StepsHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on the Five R's of an Apology - https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cHere's the link to my video on How to Make your Wife Feel Special- https://youtu.be/H7rg83yCt8U

7 Steps to Set Boundaries That Actually Work (Christian Marriage Help)In this episode, I explain how to move from simply saying no to setting clear, Godly boundaries in marriage when a spouse ignores your “no” and disrespect, pressure, or irresponsibility keep creating resentment. I share a progression I teach—suggestion, wish, request, then boundary—and clarify that a request depends on your partner’s behavior while a boundary depends on your behavior, including a consequence that stops enabling. Using biblical principles of grace and truth, I walk through seven practical steps: identify the specific behavior, consider your leverage (often distance for protection), write an I-statement and if-then script, get input from a trusted friend or coach, rehearse, share the boundary calmly and clearly, and follow through consistently. 00:00 When No Gets Ignored00:28 Series Setup and Resources01:36 Why Boundaries Matter02:11 Requests vs Boundaries03:03 Stop Enabling Consequences04:04 Grace and Truth Framework05:08 Step 1 Define Behavior05:35 Step 2 Find Leverage06:23 Step 3 Write Script07:05 Steps 4-5 Get Input Practice08:19 Steps 6-7 Share Follow Through09:25 Boundaries Heal Connection09:47 Coaching Invite and WrapHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my videos on Saying No: Make it okay to say no - https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoASaying no with kindness - https://youtu.be/65I2YmSk86cHow to hear "No" - https://youtu.be/alS20C5DjugWhy it's so hard to say no - https://youtu.be/Vl_DbMNWzxoSaying No Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcg7Dc5FP4LOI0OmqgkCXm-

Why Saying No in Marriage Feels So Hard (and How to Rebuild a Kind No Without Guilt)In this episode of my “No Series,” I explain why saying no in marriage can feel unsafe and how to retrain yourself to say no with clarity, kindness, and confidence. I cover common emotional barriers—guilt from past manipulation, fear of conflict, fear of consequences like withdrawal or sarcasm, feeling overly responsible for a spouse’s emotions, shame and low self-worth, and trauma-driven panic responses where the amygdala overrides rational thinking and leads to “fawn” people-pleasing. I share practical steps to rebuild your “no muscle,” including naming what’s driving you, buying time with “Let me think about it and I’ll get back to you,” practicing no in low-stakes situations, adding warmth, offering win-win counteroffers, expecting discomfort, and seeking help from God and wise counsel. 00:00 Why No Feels Risky00:33 About Kelly and Free Resources01:05 No Series and Missing Piece02:03 Why No Feels Unsafe02:18 Barrier One Guilt03:37 Barrier Two Conflict Fear04:14 More Barriers and Brain Wiring06:35 No Is a Muscle07:30 Step One Name the Driver08:34 Step Two Buy Time10:28 Step Three Practice No12:10 Step Four Add Warmth13:12 Counteroffers and Win Win14:51 Expect Discomfort and Grow16:31 Ask God and Get Help17:49 Final Challenge and Wrap UpHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my videos on Saying No:- Make it Ok to say No in your marriage: https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoA- How to Say No: https://youtu.be/65I2YmSk86c- How to Hear No: https://youtu.be/alS20C5DjugHere's the link to the Saying No playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcg7Dc5FP4LOI0OmqgkCXm-

Hearing No in Marriage: How to Respond with Strength, Love, and RespectI talk about why many marriages don’t break down because of a “no,” but because of what happens in the next 60 seconds—disappointment, anger, and pressure turning into conflict. As part of my series on incorporating no into your relationship, I share a biblical foundation (Ephesians 5:33, Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthians 9:7, Amos 3:3) and practical tools for hearing no in marriage: don’t debate the no, don’t punish honesty, regulate disappointment like an adult, ask clarifying questions without pressure, address repeated patterns at the right time using I-statements, and ask permission to revisit the issue to pursue a win-win. I also encourage prayer and support, including a free 30-minute strategy call and other resources at https://turnitup.coach. 00:00 When No Sparks Conflict01:07 Series Overview and Who I Am01:59 Biblical Foundation for No03:48 Why No Builds Trust05:15 Tool 1 Stop Debating06:38 Tool 2 Don't Punish Honesty07:16 Tool 3 Regulate Disappointment09:00 Tool 4 Clarify Without Pressure10:20 Tool 5 Address Patterns Later12:04 Tool 6 Ask to Revisit13:33 Get Help and Coaching17:57 Final Encouragement and Next StepsHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on Making it Ok to say No: https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoAHow to say No: https://youtu.be/65I2YmSk86cSaying No Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcg7Dc5FP4LOI0OmqgkCXm-

Say No Better to your Spouse. How to Set Boundaries with Clarity & Kindness (Without Starting a Fight)In this episode, I teach how saying no in marriage can be safe, clear, and kind—so you can protect your peace without damaging connection. I explain that no is not rejection but information, and that honest boundaries support unity and trust. Using biblical guidance (Matthew 5:37, 2 Corinthians 9:7, Genesis 2:24, Amos 3:3, Philippians), I share five practical steps: buy time before answering, evaluate what the request will cost and what it means, say no clearly (no hints or “maybe”), add warmth through tone and body language, and make a counter offer when possible. I also warn against vague maybes, harsh shutdowns, reluctant yeses, and spiritual guilt trips, and I give real-life scripts for common situations like events, help, intimacy, and budgeting.00:00 Why Saying No Matters02:36 Biblical Boundaries Basics03:51 Build the No Muscle04:54 Step 1 Buy Time06:08 Step 2 Count the Cost06:38 Step 3 Say It Clearly07:45 Step 4 Add Warmth10:54 Step 5 Counter Offers12:45 Real Life Scripts13:53 Healthy No ConclusionHere's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on Making it Ok to Say No: https://youtu.be/l08-Jo8UjoA

Saying No in Marriage Without Starting a Fight (A Biblical Way to Make “No” Feel Safe Again)I share a simple Biblical way to make saying no feel safe again in marriage by treating “no” as information, not rejection, so you respond with curiosity instead of control. I explain how conflict escalates when a request becomes a fight over what it “means,” and why you actually want your spouse to be able to say no—because if they can’t say no, they can’t truly say yes. Using Ephesians 4:3 and Matthew 5:37, I emphasize integrity, peace, and avoiding pressure or manipulation. I then give five practical tools: ask in a way that allows a real answer, respond to no with curiosity, add warmth and a counter offer when you say no, separate the request from your worth, and say yes as much as you reasonably can. I end with a weekly challenge to practice kind no’s and curious responses.Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on How to ask for what you need in your marriage: https://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCg00:00 When No Explodes00:55 Why No Feels Personal02:10 The No Means Yes Problem02:41 No Is Information03:23 Biblical Foundation04:43 Five Tools Overview04:51 Ask For Real Answers05:34 Curiosity Not Control06:07 Warm No With Options07:49 Don't Tie Worth To No08:10 Say Yes More Often08:40 Weekly Challenge Wrap09:09 Final Encouragement

Turn Conflict Into Clarity: Making Requests in MarriageIn this episode, I share a simple “volume knob” tool to reduce everyday marriage frustration by improving how we communicate. Using a real example from a couple with an infant, I explain four levels of communication—suggestion, wish, request, and boundary—and how moving from hints to clear, respectful making requests can prevent resentment and power struggles. I teach you to start requests with “Would you please,” and to make SMART requests (specific, measurable, action-oriented, reasonable, time-limited). I also cover healthy options for responding to requests—yes (with follow-through), no (with clarity), or a counter offer (changing the task or time)—and when boundaries are needed to protect respect, safety, and trust. Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on How to ask for what you need in your marriage: https://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCg00:00 Why Marriage Feels Hard00:54 Infant Naptime Conflict02:22 The Volume Knob Framework02:54 Suggestions Can Sound Critical03:37 Wishes Share Your Heart04:28 Make Clear Smart Requests06:20 Responding Yes No Counter09:24 When You Need Boundaries11:13 Try This Tonight11:56 Final Encouragement Next StepsAre you feeling like your spouse just doesn't hear you? A lot of everyday marriage frustration isn't about WHAT you're asking for, but HOW you're asking it. This video offers practical marriage advice to improve your communication skills and address common relationship problems. Learn to speak clearly and with love, fostering effective communication in marriage.

When You Feel Like You Can’t Do This Anymore in Marriage I spoke to the spouse who said, “I can’t do this anymore,” and shared Hebrews 6:12 to encourage: "Imitate those who through faith and patience inherit God’s promises. For marriages that feel hopeless but are safe, I highlight God’s promises of oneness (Genesis 2:24), agreement (Amos 3:3), and unity through peace (Ephesians 4:3). I define faith as expecting God to work and patience as staying in the process without making permanent decisions in a temporary storm. Learn practical steps—the ABCs of faith and patience: Admit and ask (1 John 5:14–15), Believe (Mark 11:24), Confess life-giving words (Proverbs 18:21; Philippians 4:13), and Do actionable next steps (James 2:17).Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on How to Invite God into your Marriage: https://youtu.be/AH41nBtWzW800:00 When You Feel Done00:59 Hebrews 6 12 Hope02:04 Safety Comes First02:56 Gods Marriage Promises04:59 Faith And Patience06:33 ABCs Ask Admit07:49 Believe For Change08:27 Confess Life Words10:27 Do The Next Step11:33 Final EncouragementFeeling like you can't do this anymore in your marriage? This message is for you. When you're running on empty, remember that enduring through faith and marriage is what God desires. Just like James 2:17 says, 'faith without works is DEAD.' Don't give up on your relationships; there are steps you can take to address these relationship problems.I'm Kelly Dupee, your Christian marriage coach. God wants to do GREAT things in your life and marriage. 🙏❤️

7 Faith-Based Ways Wives Can Show Respect (Without Losing Your Voice)Join me as I share a faith-based strategy for changing the emotional climate in your marriage through intentional respect—especially how wives respect husbands—without becoming a doormat or ignoring sin, abuse, addiction, or betrayal. Using Ephesians 5:33, I explain that respect is not agreement and that tone, honor, and sincere affirmation can soften defensiveness and create a virtuous cycle of respect, security, and healthier leadership. I walk through seven practical steps: seeing respect as “oxygen” to a man’s heart, separating respect from agreement, using gentle tone, catching what he does right and saying it out loud, building a virtuous cycle with shared responsibility, adding clear boundaries with grace and truth, and getting help from God and trusted mentors or coaching.Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on 12 Ways to Show Respect to your Husband: https://youtu.be/LBTNols1P3M00:00 Respect Changes Everything01:41 What Respect Is Not03:28 Step 1 Respect Is Oxygen04:36 Step 2 Honor Without Agreement05:19 Step 3 Tone Matters06:13 Step 4 Catch Him Right09:00 Step 5 Virtuous Cycle10:24 Step 6 Respect With Boundaries12:14 Step 7 Get Help13:05 One Week Challenge13:40 Final Wrap UpWhat if the biggest turning point in your marriage isn't another hard conversation, but a quiet revolution you start with respect? This faith-based strategy can soften a defensive spouse and rebuild partnership, offering powerful marriage advice. Embrace spiritual growth and biblical wisdom to cultivate a strong marriage and a happy marriage, without losing your voice. 🙏❤️

7 Biblical Steps to Break the Silent Treatment in Marriage (Without Making It Worse)Silence after conflict in marriage is often another expression of anger or fear, and warns that ongoing silence paralyzes a relationship and gives the enemy an opportunity. You'll learn seven practical biblical steps to break through the silent treatment and resolve the underlying issue: identify what caused the silence, determine whether it’s rooted in anger or fear, pray for courage and wisdom, ask permission and schedule a specific time to talk, use “I” statements to express hurt without attacking, invite your spouse to share their heart with curious questions, and apologize effectively using five “R” elements (reflect, responsibility, remorse, repent, request forgiveness). You'll also be challenged to break the silence within 24 hours and seek help from God and wise counselors if needed.Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on the 5 R's of an Effective Apology: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9c00:00 Silent Treatment Explained00:59 A Couple in Standoff02:03 Why Silence Happens03:43 Step 1 Find the Cause04:16 Step 2 Anger or Fear06:49 Step 3 Schedule the Talk07:48 Step 4 Use I Statements08:33 Step 5 Invite Their Heart09:40 Step 6 Apologize the Five Rs12:01 Step 7 Get Help and Pray13:36 24 Hour Challenge and Next Steps

Show Understanding + The 5 Rs Apology: The Skill That Calms Hard Conversations (Marriage & Work)I share how a coaching client used a marriage communication skill to calm an explosive workplace meeting by choosing to slow down, listen, repeat the complaint back, and show understanding (James 1:19). When people feel heard, tension drops and collaboration becomes possible. I then explain what to do after things cool down: offer an ownership-based apology using my “Five Rs”—Repeat the offense clearly, take Responsibility without excuses, express Remorse by acknowledging the pain caused, Repent with a real change plan and make things right, and Request forgiveness (especially in marriage). I warn against apology killers like “but” and “if,” and connect these tools to biblical wisdom like Proverbs 15:1. Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to Show Understanding: https://youtu.be/UR3aW4oHBEw00:00 Marriage Skill Surprise00:47 Work Meeting Turnaround01:26 Show Understanding Method02:18 Resources And Coaching03:46 Five Rs Apology07:26 Apology Killers08:29 Christlike Leadership09:26 Weekly Challenge09:55 Next Steps And OutroI taught a client a specific skill to improve his marriage, and he then used it to avoid a work disaster. This approach quickly turned a room full of angry individuals into a productive partnership, demonstrating its use in difficult conversations. This essential skill will help you lead better at home and in the office, fostering peaceful relationships and effective communication.

Stop Anger From Exploding: 6 Biblical Steps for Quick-Tempered Spouses In this episode, I talk to the husband or wife who loves their spouse and loves God but still struggles with anger that comes out as snapping, sarcasm, raised voices, or slamming doors. I explain from Ephesians 4:26–27 that anger is a natural emotion but becomes sin when it turns explosive and gives the devil a foothold, and I connect this with James 1:19’s call to be slow to speak and slow to become angry. I share a practical, biblical plan to help quick tempered people widen the gap between trigger and reaction: identify physical warning signs, use a 90-second pause, check your HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired), pray and breathe, call a time out with a clear return time, and ask God and others for help as the Holy Spirit develops self-control. Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to call a Timeout: https://youtu.be/viVBjMqoPzAalso here's the link to my Managing Anger Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLIVwkz_tHswcYkTflnH6X6Kna4FYWeLD400:00 Anger Hurts Marriage00:50 Channel Intro And Free Guide01:26 What Bible Says About Anger03:43 Quick Tempered Gap05:02 Spot Physical Warning Signs06:54 Use The 90 Second Rule08:31 Check Your HALT Triggers09:56 Pray And Breathe10:41 Call A Healthy Timeout13:44 Get Help And Self Control17:05 Wrap Up And Next Steps

Use a Time Out to Stop Explosive Anger in Your Marriage (Christian Marriage Coaching)In this episode, I share one simple tool—a time out—to stop an argument from exploding, protect your connection, and help you come back to actually solve the issue. I explain how anger can damage a marriage through blowups or silent hostility. I ground the teaching in scripture (Ephesians 4:26–27 and Proverbs 15:1, 14:29, 14:17) and explain the physical fight-or-flight response that makes clear thinking harder. I define what a time out is (a short, agreed-upon pause with a promise to return) and what it is not (storming off, punishing, disappearing, using silence as a weapon, or avoiding the issue). I walk through how to use a time out: call it early and only on yourself, use a simple script, agree on the length and return time, keep the promise to return and talk, and commit to keeping anger under control by avoiding trigger words and silent hostility. I also suggest calming tactics like drinking water and using “I” statements and share examples from couples. Here's the link to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on what the book of Proverbs teaches us about managing anger: https://youtu.be/8-06tyzS0dcTimeline:0:00 Anger feels like a third person in your home + the “time out” tool0:40 Who I am (Kelly Dupee) + subscribe for weekly marriage tips1:10 Sally and Bill’s pattern: blowups and silent hostility2:05 What scripture says about anger (Ephesians, Proverbs)3:10 Why anger escalates physically (fight or flight, amygdala vs prefrontal cortex)4:05 What a time out is—and what it is NOT5:15 Step 1: Call the time out early (and only on yourself)6:40 Step 2: Use a simple script to call a time out7:35 Step 3: Agree on the length and return time8:20 Step 4: Keep your promise to return and talk (don’t avoid)9:35 What to do during a time out (water, “I” statements)10:35 Step 5: Commit to keeping anger under control (no trigger words, no silent hostility)12:05 How the time out helped other couples + you can do this too12:45 Free 30-minute strategy call + more resources (Proverbs video)13:20 Subscribe + blessing for your marriageDoes it sometimes feel like anger is a third person in your house, damaging your relationships and turning every conversation into a conflict? 😤 This video offers a simple tool to help you calm down arguments and protect your connection. As your Christian marriage coach, I'm here to provide marriage help and improve your communication skills as a couple. 👉 Want help putting this into practice? Click the link in my bio or comment HELP below and let's set up a FREE 30-minute strategy call!

Break the Cycle of Defensiveness in Marriage In this episode, I share how I coached a wife named Beth and her husband to break a painful cycle of defensiveness that made her feel like she was walking on eggshells. I explain that defensiveness is usually a symptom rooted in pride or fear, and I walk through a biblical approach to changing the pattern using Proverbs 15:1 and James 1:19. I cover why confronting while hot fails, how to shift from accusation to vulnerability using I statements, and how husbands can stop “lawyering” for themselves by listening and repeating back what they hear. I also teach the five R’s of a true apology—repeat, responsibility, remorse, repent, and request forgiveness—and show how these steps helped Beth and her husband move from constant conflict to real connection by fighting for each other instead of against each other.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on the 5 R's of an Apology and why they matter https://youtu.be/RIMLvepIR-8Timeline:00:00 Walking on Eggshells: Beth’s Story & What You’ll Learn01:45 Why Defensiveness Happens: Pride vs. Fear02:20 Proverbs 15:1 — Your Approach Sets the Tone03:03 Principle #1: Don’t Confront While You’re Hot03:50 Principle #2: Swap Accusations for Vulnerable “I” Statements04:50 His Part: James 1:19 Listening Without Defending05:52 Principle #4: The 5 R’s Apology (Repeat → Request Forgiveness)07:28 Results: Breaking the Anger Loop & Fighting for Each Other08:09 Wrap-Up Challenge + Next Steps (Guide, Call, More Videos)

Expect to Hear from God!Are you seeking God's guidance for your marriage but feeling uncertain if you're truly hearing Him? In this video I'll guide you through the importance of praying with faith and expectation to hear God's voice. I share practical steps on how to pray expectantly, listen for His guidance through the Word, Holy Spirit, and wise counsel, and act on His prompts to strengthen your marriage. Throughout the video, I emphasize the necessity of faith in prayer, as outlined in scriptures like Hebrews 11:6, Mark 11:24, and James 1:5-7. Join me as we explore how God wants to lead you towards a healthy, strong, and resilient marriage. Stick around till the end for details on a free couples communication guide and a strategy call to help you further.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to hear God's voice: https://youtu.be/_IWfZZd036o00:00 Introduction: Seeking God's Guidance in Marriage00:24 The Importance of Praying with Faith01:44 How God Guides Us03:02 The Role of Expectation in Prayer08:03 Practical Steps to Hear God's Voice10:16 Conclusion: Strengthening Your Faith and Marriage

How to Hear God's Voice for Guidance in Your MarriageAre you praying and asking God to heal your marriage and guide you in becoming a better spouse but struggling to hear His voice? This video is for you. Hi, I'm Kelly Dupee, your Christian marriage coach and author of 'Turn It Up: How to Have The Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want'. In this episode, I'll show you simple and hopeful ways to recognize God's guidance in your marriage. We discuss how God speaks to us through scripture and the Holy Spirit's prompting, and the importance of testing these thoughts against scripture. I'll also share a simple formula to help you create space, ask clear questions, and listen for God’s voice. Join me as we explore how to hear God's direction and rebuild the connection in your marriage.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to improve your listening skills: https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: Seeking God's Guidance in Marriage01:04 Understanding How God Speaks01:20 The Role of Scripture and the Holy Spirit02:15 Recognizing God's Voice03:46 Practical Steps to Hear God's Voice05:45 Conclusion: Embracing God's Guidance

Strengthening Your Marriage: Beyond Communication StrugglesAre you and your spouse having difficulties in your relationship and think it's because of communication issues? In this video I explain that communication might not be the real problem. Instead, the core issue is often a lack of connection. Drawing from Biblical principles and my experience, I discuss how drifting apart leads to negative sentiments and how reconnecting with your spouse is crucial. I offer six practical strategies to strengthen your connection, prioritize your relationship, and ultimately improve communication. Watch this video for actionable tips and Biblical wisdom to help your marriage thrive.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to improve your listening skills: https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: Understanding Communication Struggles00:43 The Real Issue: Disconnection, Not Communication03:13 The Dimmer Switch Analogy03:51 Prioritizing Your Relationship05:42 Six Ways to Reconnect with Your Spouse12:40 Conclusion: Taking Action to Reconnect

Inviting God into Your Marriage: Steps to Healing and TransformationHave you ever wondered if God is listening to your prayers to heal your marriage? In this video, I assure you that God does care and is listening. I'm Kelly Dupee, your Christian marriage coach and author, here to guide you on how to genuinely invite God into your marriage for real transformation. Discover how to truly seek God's help with seven practical steps, including admitting you need help, asking God to change you, praying with open hands, seeking wisdom, trusting God to work in your spouse's heart, expecting God to work, and getting help. Join me in taking action to heal and strengthen your marriage. Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to the video on Inviting God into your Marriage: https://youtu.be/AH41nBtWzW800:00 Introduction: Inviting God into Your Marriage01:09 Understanding God's Will for Your Marriage02:46 Seven Action Steps to Heal Your Marriage02:50 Step 1: Admit You Need Help and God04:51 Step 2: Ask God to Change You06:40 Step 3: Pray with Open Hands08:27 Step 4: Ask for Wisdom and Guidance11:07 Step 5: Trust God to Work in Your Spouse's Heart12:24 Step 6: Expect God to Work14:15 Step 7: Get Some Help16:35 Conclusion: Taking Action and Seeking HelpHave you ever cried out to God for help, perhaps for the healing of your marriage, only to feel unheard? 🙏 This video assures you that God is listening and deeply cares, suggesting we might need to approach our prayers in a different way. I encourage you to invite God into your life, asking for wisdom and divine guidance, as true change often begins with grace. For more relationship advice and support, remember to connect with me.

Transform Your Marriage with Grace and TruthHas your spouse ever told you to change or felt the need to change for a better marriage? Often, we think trying harder is the solution. However, receiving and giving grace can bring real change. I'm Kelly DuPee, your Christian marriage coach, and in this video, I'll share five ways to bring grace into your marriage. We'll explore the true meaning of grace and how it involves acceptance, unconditional love, and truth to create a safe environment where your spouse can grow and change. Ready to build a grace-filled marriage? Watch now and don't forget to subscribe for more insights on strengthening your relationship.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/7500:00 Introduction: The Need for Change in Marriage01:26 Understanding Grace in Marriage01:44 Five Ways to Bring Grace into Your Marriage01:48 First Way: Understanding What Grace Is03:43 Second Way: Giving Grace When Someone Has Failed05:20 Third Way: Loving Your Spouse Unconditionally06:54 Fourth Way: Combining Grace with Truth07:58 Fifth Way: Grace as the Foundation for Change and Growth09:40 Action Steps and ConclusionAre you facing a moment in your marriage where change feels necessary? This message explores whether the key to a better relationship lies in trying harder or in receiving grace. It's about choosing to love "unconditionally" and fostering "accountability in marriage" to build a stronger foundation. What if the approach to growth and a thriving marriage is rooted in how you'd want to be loved and accepted?

6 Steps to Earn Your Wife's Respect and AdmirationIn this video, Kelly Dupee, a Christian marriage coach, explains how husbands can earn their wife's respect and admiration. Rather than attempting to change their wives, men are encouraged to become the kind of husbands that naturally deserve respect. Kelly shares six practical action steps, underpinned by biblical principles, to build the character and qualities women admire. Key points include understanding what your wife needs, building integrity through small commitments, engaging in honest self-examination, identifying areas for personal growth, making a commitment to change, and seeking help. Offering a free 30-minute strategy call and a couples communication guide, Kelly provides resources to help husbands improve their marriages.Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to improve your listening skills: https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: Earning Your Wife's Respect02:11 Understanding Your Wife's Needs04:14 Building Integrity Through Small Commitments05:46 Self-Examination for Personal Growth08:13 Identifying Areas for Improvement09:09 Making a Commitment to Change10:45 Seeking Help and Support11:50 Conclusion and Action PlanEvery husband desires his wife's respect and admiration. This video offers practical marriage advice, suggesting that true respect comes from self improvement and becoming the kind of husband who embodies a strong mindset. By focusing on personal growth and pursuing God, men can cultivate a success mindset that naturally earns their wives' honor. This approach fosters healthier relationships and deeper connection, rooted in christian motivation.

4 Simple Steps to Be a Good Spouse and Strengthen Your MarriageIn this episode, I'm sharing four simple steps to help you become a better spouse and strengthen your marriage. Discover how to apply biblical principles to everyday relationship challenges, learn the importance of listening, responding with patience, and taking initiative. I'll also guide you in asking your spouse what they need and inviting God into the process for transformative change. Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to get your free copy of my book, Turn it Up - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want: https://turnitup.coach/75Here's the link to my video on how to improve your listening skills: https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: The Key to a Better Marriage01:22 Understanding the Challenge: Are We Really Good?02:41 Step 1: Defining Goodness in Marriage03:26 Practical Examples of Being a Good Spouse10:14 Step 2: Communicating with Your Spouse12:07 Step 3: Seeking Divine Help15:29 Step 4: Taking Action16:27 Conclusion: Your Path to a Stronger Marriage

3 Steps to Reconnect Your Marriage After Christmas |Christmas is over and the post-Christmas stress might be impacting your marriage. In this video, I offer you three simple steps to recover your connection: talk about what happened, rebuild intentional moments of connection, and make a plan for next year. These steps, backed by biblical wisdom, will turn any holiday tension into breakthroughs. Let's make your marriage stronger together!Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call00:00 Introduction: Post-Christmas Reflections00:42 Meet Your Coach: Kelly Dupee01:32 Step 1: Talk About What Happened04:43 Step 2: Rebuild Your Connection06:17 Step 3: Make a Plan for the Future09:43 Conclusion: Your Marriage is Worth Fighting For

How to Protect Your Marriage from Christmas StressFeeling the weight of Christmas stress? You're not alone. In this video, I share practical ways to protect your marriage during the festive season and make your Christmas more meaningful. From prioritizing each other and setting boundaries to rediscovering the true reason for the season, I'll guide you on how to keep your connection strong. My name is Kelly DuPee, Christian marriage coach and author of 'Turn It Up: How to Have The Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want.' Join me as I offer advice backed by biblical principles and practical tips to help you navigate the demands of Christmas joyfully and stress-free. Don't forget to download my free couples communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call00:42 Meet Your Guide: Kelly DuPee00:55 Understanding Christmas Stress01:24 Tip 1: Prioritize Each Other02:48 Tip 2: Set Boundaries03:48 Tip 3: Communicate Expectations04:48 Tip 4: Remember the Reason for the Season07:31 Final Tips and Encouragement08:28 Conclusion and Further ResourcesThe holiday season, meant for closeness, can sometimes bring disconnection and stress to couples. If you're navigating the pressures of Christmas, this video provides essential `marriage tips` for a truly `stress free christmas`. Discover practical ways to improve your `mental health at christmas`, focus on `building connection`, and ultimately `strengthen marriage` during this special time. ✨🌲👉 Ready to make this Christmas a time of joy and connection? Type CALL in the comments to schedule your FREE 30-minute strategy session!

Setting Healthy Biblical Boundaries with Parents & In-Laws: 6 Practical StepsHave you ever felt caught between your spouse and your parents or in-laws? In this episode, I share six practical steps to help you establish healthy biblical boundaries with your parents and in-laws to protect your marriage while honoring God. Learn why boundaries matter, how to pray for wisdom, unite as a couple, communicate clearly, offer alternatives, stay consistent, and respond to pushback gracefully. By setting boundaries with love and clarity, you not only protect your marriage but also set a healthy example for your children and extended family. If you'd like help on this journey, type 'guide' in the comments for a free Couple's Communication Guide or use this link: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideI'm also offering a free 30-minute strategy call for personalized help on how to set and maintain healthy boundaries.Schedule your free Strategy call today at by calling or texting 626-804-1731or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call00:00 Introduction: Navigating Family Dynamics01:09 Understanding Boundaries in Marriage03:15 Step 1: Seek Divine Guidance04:24 Step 2: Unite as a Couple05:17 Step 3: Communicate Clearly and Kindly06:11 Step 4: Offer Alternatives06:48 Step 5: Stay Consistent07:31 Step 6: Respond with Grace09:11 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

How to Maintain a Strong Parenting Team: Tips for Unity and Effective ParentingIn this video, you'll learn valuable insights on maintaining a cohesive parenting team with your spouse. Learn how to stay united with your spouse, protect your marriage from parenting stress, and build a calmer, more connected home. Key principles include focusing on your marriage, avoiding 'shoulding' on each other, committing to parenting in unity, showing appreciation and accountability, and evaluating your parenting strategies regularly. Additionally, this recording covers the importance of connecting before correcting, building structure and routine, training kids on life skills, allowing them to learn from failures, and effective co-parenting with an ex-spouse or in a blended family. I'm offering a free 30-minute parenting strategy call for personalized advice.Schedule your free Strategy call today at https://www.turnitup.coach/ or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the links to my other parenting videos:Blending your Parenting Styles - https://youtu.be/Lw22YguYsFIParenting as a Team - https://youtu.be/Lw22YguYsFIDisciplining without Yelling - https://youtu.be/ASWQhAwpx7oBe the Parent your Kids Love - https://youtu.be/hQJWc85eax000:00 Introduction: The Challenge of Maintaining Progress00:45 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide to a Stronger Marriage01:28 The Importance of Focusing on Your Marriage02:36 Stop 'Shoulding' on Each Other03:16 Commit to Parenting in Unity03:52 Appreciation and Accountability in Parenting04:36 Evaluating Your Parenting Strategies05:49 Additional Tips for Strong Parenting07:58 Co-Parenting and Blended Families08:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

What if the fastest way to feel closer to your spouse isn’t fixing a problem, but noticing a blessing?In this video, Christian marriage coach Kelly DuPee shares how one simple shift—gratitude—can lower tension in your home, soften sharp reactions, and help you feel more connected to your spouse, starting today.You’ll discover: - How a daily gratitude practice can quietly transform the way you see your spouse - Why gratitude calms stress and helps you respond instead of react - How it gives your marriage a steadier foundation during conflict and busy seasons - A powerful biblical perspective on giving thanks *for* everything (Ephesians 5:20) - The surprising way gratitude becomes a “protective shield” for your relationship Kelly will also give you a **7‑day gratitude challenge** for your marriage: writing down three things you’re grateful for about your spouse each day to begin changing the emotional climate in your home.If you’re feeling distant, irritated, or just “off” in your marriage, this video will help you: - Shift your focus from what’s wrong to what’s working - Notice the small, everyday kindnesses you’ve been walking past - Bring more peace, warmth, and emotional safety into your relationship May God bless you, your marriage, and your family this Thanksgiving season.

Becoming the Parent Your Kids Want to Be Around | 4 Key Shifts for Lifelong ConnectionHave you ever thought that parenting is more about becoming the parents your kids want to spend time with? In this video, I explore the transformative goal of not only raising good kids but becoming parents they love being around. I share four key shifts that will help build lifelong connections with your children: moving from controlling to coaching, from perfection to presence, from correction to connection, and from worry to faith. Stick around to learn how these shifts can bring you closer to your kids and keep your relationship strong as they grow. I’m Kelly DuPee, and as a pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach, I’ve learned that parenting shapes our character just as much as it shapes our children's. I also offer a free 30-minute parenting strategy call to help you strengthen your family dynamics. Schedule your call today at turnitup.coach or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the links to my other parenting videos:Blending your Parenting Styles - https://youtu.be/Lw22YguYsFIParenting as a Team - https://youtu.be/Lw22YguYsFIDisciplining without Yelling - https://youtu.be/ASWQhAwpx7o00:00 Introduction: The Goal of Parenting00:56 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide01:36 Shift 1: From Controlling to Coaching02:29 Shift 2: From Perfection to Presence03:57 Shift 3: From Correction to Connection05:24 Shift 4: From Worry to Faith06:28 The Power of Prayer in Parenting08:08 Final Thoughts and Free Offer09:36 Closing Prayer and BlessingsDo you ever feel like the goal of parenting isn't just about raising kids you like to be around, but also becoming parents they want to be around too? This video explores a deeper dimension of parenting motivation, focusing on building meaningful relationships that last into adulthood. By fostering strong parent child bonding, we can cultivate adult children relationships where our kids choose to spend time with us, contributing to a peaceful parenting environment that benefits everyone. ✨And if you want to strengthen communication in your marriage so you can parent more effectively together, type GUIDE in the comments and I’ll send you my free couples communication guide.#ChristianParenting #FaithTok #ChristianMarriage #GentleParentingTips #ChristianCouples #BiblicalParenting #MarriageAdvice #PeacefulParenting #ParentingTips #ParentTok #ChristianFamily

Effective Parenting: Calm Discipline Without YellingIn this video, I share techniques for disciplining your kids calmly and effectively. You will learn how to create a peaceful home, maintain unity with your spouse, and teach your kids responsibility without power struggles. I also discuss important parenting resources, including the books 'Boundaries with Kids' by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend and '1-2-3 Magic' by Dr. Thomas Phelan, which offer valuable insights on balancing grace and truth in discipline. I provide practical tips on using the 1-2-3 Magic method, the importance of being calm and consistent, and the difference between guilt and shame. Additionally, I offer a free couples communication guide to help improve communication in your relationship.Don't forget to type 'guide' in the comments or use the link https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide to get my free couples communication guide. Build connection and improve your marriage today!Ready to parent together as a team? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to my video on Parent as a Team: https://youtu.be/lHnjxCnJyZU00:00 Introduction: The Struggle of Disciplining Kids00:39 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide to Effective Parenting01:01 The Power of Parenting Books01:34 Balancing Grace and Truth in Parenting02:33 Understanding Discipline: Training, Not Punishment03:49 The 1-2-3 Magic Technique05:15 Common Discipline Mistakes and How to Avoid Them07:31 Practical Tips for Effective Parenting09:19 The Role of Guilt and Shame in Discipline11:34 The Importance of Keeping Promises and Consequences13:13 Biblical Insights on Discipline14:28 Final Encouragement and Resources

Parenting Together: 6 Practical Tips to Unite with Your SpouseHave you ever felt like you and your spouse are on opposite teams when it comes to parenting your kids? In this video, I share six practical suggestions to help you parent as a team and improve unity, communication, and consistency in your home. Hi, I'm Kelly DuPee, a pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author dedicated to helping couples strengthen their marriages. Join me to learn how to make united decisions, communicate with grace, and raise your kids from the same page. Don't miss out on tips like 'Don't Decide Alone' and 'Schedule Parenting Strategy Sessions'. Plus, get your free couple's communication guide by typing 'guide' in the comments. Let's create a calmer, more consistent home together.Don't forget to type 'guide' in the comments or use the link https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide to get my free couples communication guide. Build connection and improve your marriage today!Ready to parent together as a team? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to my video on How to Blend your Parenting Styles: https://youtu.be/Lw22YguYsFI00:00 Introduction: Parenting on Opposite Teams00:36 The Power of Team Parenting00:55 Meet Kelly DuPee01:18 Suggestion 1: Don't Decide Alone03:55 Suggestion 2: Schedule Parenting Strategy Sessions05:22 Suggestion 3: Practice Understanding First08:05 Suggestion 4: Aim for Win-Win Agreements10:19 Review and Final Suggestions13:08 Conclusion: Unity in Parenting

Parenting Harmony: Blending Grace and Truth in Your Parenting StylesIn this recording, I'm going to address the common tension that arises in marriages due to differing parenting styles. You'll learn how to blend grace and truth in your parenting approach to create a more peaceful and united home environment. Learn how to make united decisions without power struggles, affirm each other's strengths, establish shared parenting values, and discuss discipline strategies ahead of time. I'll share personal experiences and practical tips to help you and your spouse work together as a team, reflecting God's heart to your children. Additionally, I'm offering a free Couple's Communication Guide and a 30-minute strategy call to further assist you. Let's bring peace back into your parenting and strengthen your marriage.Don't forget to type 'guide' in the comments or use the link https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide to get my free couples communication guide. Build connection and improve your marriage today!Ready to parent together as a team? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to my video on How to Improve your Listening Skills - https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: Navigating Parenting Differences01:19 Understanding Grace and Truth in Parenting04:59 Recognizing and Balancing Your Parenting Style06:59 Affirming Your Spouse's Strengths08:05 Creating Shared Parenting Values09:05 Discussing Discipline Ahead of Time11:35 Seeking Wisdom Through Prayer12:23 Letting God Shape Both Parents14:00 Conclusion: Unified Parenting ApproachNavigating different parenting styles can be tough, especially when one parent is strict and the other is more lenient. Learn practical parenting advice to create harmony and address parenting issues without constant conflict. Discover the different types of parenting and how they impact family dynamics.

Do you feel like you and your spouse are more like roommates than a married couple? In this video, you're going to learn seven practical, Bible-based steps to deepen emotional and spiritual connections with your spouse and move from roommates to reconnected. Drawing upon my expertise as a marriage coach, I provide actionable advice on fostering gratitude, resolving conflicts, and making intentional efforts to reconnect. I emphasize the importance of turning towards each other, discussing emotions, scheduling quality time, praying together, and making your marriage a priority. Don't forget to use the link https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide to get my free couples communication guide. Build connection and improve your marriage today!00:00 Introduction: Are You More Like Roommates?01:00 Understanding the Dimmer Switch in Marriage02:08 Step 1: Turn Towards Each Other03:40 Step 2: Talk About Feelings, Not Just Facts05:50 Step 3: Put Connection on Your Calendar08:12 Step 4: Practice Gratitude and Serve Each Other10:22 Step 5: Resolve What's Separating You12:28 Step 6: Pray Together and Invite God into Your Marriage14:01 Step 7: Make Your Marriage a Priority and Get Help16:00 Conclusion: Renew Your ConnectionHere's the links to videos mentioned in the recording:How to Confront: https://youtu.be/n_3gh9LyPFQHow to Apologize effectively: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cHow to Invite God into your Marriage: https://youtu.be/AH41nBtWzW8Ready to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!

4 Steps to Effectively Change Your Marriage Without ConflictHave you ever wanted to change something in your marriage without starting an argument? I'm Kelly Dupee, pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach. In this video, I teach you a four-step progression to bring up changes in your marriage that build connection instead of conflict. Learn how to make a suggestion, express a wish, make a request, and set a healthy boundary. Watch till the end for specific instructions on how to implement these strategies in your marriage right away. Timeline: 0:00 - Introduction and purpose of the video 1:12 - Step 1: Making a suggestion 2:32 - Step 2: Expressing a wish 4:15 - Step 3: Making a request 6:20 - Step 4: Setting a boundary 12:03 - Biblical references for effective communication 14:05 - Exercise for the week 15:32 - Conclusion and final thoughts Don't forget to type 'guide' in the comments or use the link https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide to get my free couples communication guide. Build connection and improve your marriage today!Ready to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to the video on How to Calm Down: https://youtu.be/hQrselw-zcAHere's the link to the video on How to Make a Request: https://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCg

6 Biblical Ways to Show Respect to Your Husband: Combat Disrespect in MarriageHave you ever wondered why a simple question or suggestion to your husband can sometimes lead to an unexpectedly hostile or distant reaction? In this video, I explain why men often equate respect with trust and how a perceived lack of trust can deeply hurt them. I share six biblical strategies for effectively communicating respect to your husband, helping build a stronger, more loving marriage. These strategies include watching your tone, expressing confidence, and making requests instead of accusations. Join me, Kelly Dupee, as I delve into ways to improve your marital relationship through respect, trust, and understanding. Plus, explore an offer for a free strategy call and download a couple's communication guide.Here's the link to my free couples communication guide that will help you connect with your spouse better. https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: Understanding the Issue00:24 The Root of Disrespect: Lack of Trust02:19 Biblical Insights on Love and Respect03:40 Six Biblical Ways to Show Respect03:48 1. Watch Your Tone04:51 2. Express Your Confidence06:08 3. Let Your Husband Help You07:59 4. Make Requests, Not Accusations09:44 5. Give Him the Freedom to Do It His Way11:53 6. Pray, Don't Push14:23 Conclusion: Building a Respectful Marriage15:41 Final Thoughts and ResourcesReady to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to my videos on How to Respect your Husband: https://youtu.be/LBTNols1P3M andhttps://youtu.be/tqdy5FzGrOE

Be the Spouse Your Spouse NeedsIn this episode, Pastor Kelly DuPee discusses the transformative power of focusing on becoming the spouse your partner needs you to be, rather than trying to change them. Emphasizing the importance of a prayer asking God to help one become the best spouse, Kelly shares five Bible-based steps to improve your marriage. He addresses common relationship challenges, such as assumptions and defensiveness, and offers actionable advice, including asking curious questions, listening without defending, paying attention to stress points, learning your spouse's love language, and staying flexible. The video encourages couples to focus on their own growth and improvement, reflecting the love and grace of Jesus in their marriages. Kelly also offers a couple's communication guide for further support.Here's the link to my free couples communication guide that will help you connect with your spouse better. https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Key to Transforming Your Marriage00:40 The Power of Self-Change in Marriage00:51 Meet Kelly Dupee: Your Marriage Coach01:07 The Problem with Trying to Change Your Spouse01:28 Biblical Insights on Marriage02:22 Understanding Your Spouse's Needs02:53 Step 1: Ask with Curiosity03:57 Step 2: Listen Without Defending04:39 Step 3: Pay Attention to Stress Points05:46 Step 4: Learn Their Love Language06:36 Step 5: Stay Flexible07:25 Conclusion: Reflecting the Love of Jesus in Your MarriageReady to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!Here's the link to my video that will help you change how you pray for your spouse: https://youtu.be/w4K3Qw7sKIY

Navigating Marriage Through Grief and Loss: Bible-Based GuidanceHave you ever wondered how your marriage would be affected by a major loss? In this video, I discuss how loss can change a marriage and provide Bible-based steps to help you and your spouse navigate grief together. From giving each other space and grieving together to guarding your connection from resentment and focusing on the hope in Jesus Christ, I offer practical advice and spiritual guidance to strengthen your relationship during challenging times. Don't forget to request your free couple's communication guide to improve your relationship. Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWould you like a free 30 minute strategy call to strengthen your relationship? Call or text 626-804-1731 or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to my video  how to support your grieving spouse: https://youtu.be/GGlIbKYMwqc00:00 Introduction: Facing Loss in Marriage00:35 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide Through Grief01:08 A Real-Life Example of Grieving Together01:49 Understanding Grief: Emotions and Reactions02:16 Healthy Grieving: Embrace and Express02:31 Communication and Support in Grief03:15 Practical Steps to Navigate Marriage After Loss04:57 Guarding Against Resentment06:13 Finding Hope in Jesus Christ08:36 Conclusion: Strengthening Your Bond Through Grief09:08 Final Words and Prayer

5 Biblical Steps to Transform Your Marriage CommunicationHave you ever felt disconnected from your spouse, like you're speaking different languages? In this video, you'll learn why communication is challenging for couples today and five Bible-based steps to improve it. Learn the importance of listening to understand, speaking carefully, walking in humility, being present, and practicing grace. Improve your marriage communication with these actionable tips Join me on this journey to create a life, love, and lasting connection in your marriage.Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideWould you like a free 30 minute strategy call to strengthen your relationship? Call or text 626-804-1731 or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callHere's the link to my video - Improving Your Listening Skills can Strengthen your Marriage. https://youtu.be/6j_LXfKKLCU00:00 Introduction: The Communication Gap in Marriages00:50 Why Communication is Challenging Today01:29 Step 1: Listen to Understand, Not to Respond02:37 Step 2: Speak Carefully, Not Carelessly03:22 Step 3: Walk in Humility, Not Pride04:39 Step 4: Be Present, Not Distracted05:44 Step 5: Practice Grace, Not Score Keeping06:30 Conclusion: Building a Marriage with Effective CommunicationDo you ever feel like you and your spouse are speaking different languages, leading to constant miscommunication? It's common for couples to experience this in their marriage, where simple conversations turn into frustrating relationship problems. Understanding these barriers is the first step to improving your relationships and offering effective relationship advice.

The Secret to a 50-Year Marriage - Revealed by Harvard ResearchersWhat if the key to a long-term marriage isn't about finding your perfect match? Join me, as I reveal surprising insights from a Harvard study that followed 724 couples for decades. Discover the one trait that keeps marriages strong, why trying to fix your partner can destroy intimacy, and learn practical strategies for transforming conflicts into deeper connections. Plus, find out what the most successful couples do when they feel like quitting. I also have a free couple's communication guide to help you enhance your relationship. Type 'guide' in the comments to get your free copy or go to https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideReady to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!00:00 The Secret to a 50-Year Marriage01:01 Introduction 01:23 Harvard's Surprising Findings01:36 The Power of Tolerance02:43 The Importance of Quick Recovery03:39 Facing Challenges Together04:23 The Power of Patience04:57 Four Commitments for a Strong Marriage07:38 Invitation for Personal Help08:08 Final Thoughts and BlessingsWant a marriage that embodies "love that lasts"? This video reveals the surprising key to a "strong marriage" discovered by Harvard researchers. It's not about finding the perfect match, but understanding the "marriage secrets" to "longevity" and fostering a "happy marriage." Watch this to get "relationship advice" and "marriage tips"!

Godly Sorrow vs. Worldly Sorrow: The Key to Healing Your RelationshipIn this recording, I explore the crucial difference between Godly sorrow and worldly sorrow and how understanding this can transform your marriage or relationship. If you find yourself stuck in a painful cycle of hurting your spouse, it’s essential to recognize the type of sorrow you’re experiencing. Are you genuinely remorseful for the pain you’ve caused, or just upset about the negative consequences? I'll share insights from my experience as a pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach, and explain why true, long-lasting change only comes from a heart aligned with God’s. Join me to learn how to identify and cultivate Godly sorrow, and why it's key to achieving real transformation and healing in your relationship.00:00 Introduction: The Painful Cycle of Hurt00:27 Understanding the Two Types of Sorrow01:50 Worldly Sorrow vs. Godly Sorrow04:31 Recognizing Godly Sorrow in Your Heart05:06 Identifying Your Partner's Sorrow05:35 The Transformative Power of Godly Sorrow06:14 A Prayer for a Changed Heart06:54 Conclusion: Embrace Godly SorrowDid you hurt your spouse? Are you sorry that you hurt them, or are you just sorry about the negative consequences? This video highlights the importance of a sincere apology and owning your mistakes in relationships. It's time for some serious relationship advice!Learn how to apologize effectively. Watch the 5 R's of an Apology and Why They Matter. https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cReady to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours! #relationshipadvice #apology #howtoapologizeeffectively #makingmistakesinarelationship #sincereapology

Transform Your Marriage: The Prayer that Changed EverythingIf you want to have a strong and healthy marriage, this video is for you. Discover a simple change in the way you pray that can transform your relationship. I share my personal journey with you, revealing what I used to pray for regarding my marriage and what I pray for now. Learn why praying for God to change your spouse might be the biggest obstacle to healing your marriage and how shifting your prayers to 'Lord, change me' can lead to powerful transformation. Follow my three simple steps: ask God to search your heart, receive and give forgiveness, and ask for God's love to flow through you. Embrace this shift for 30 days, and watch what God does. Here's the link to my free couples communication guide that will help you connect with your spouse better. https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: Transform Your Marriage Through Prayer01:16 Personal Experience: How I Used to Pray01:58 The Problem with Praying for Your Spouse's Change03:15 The Solution: Praying for Personal Change04:10 Steps to Pray for Personal Transformation08:22 Challenge: Embrace the Shift in Prayer08:58 Conclusion and Call to Action09:27 Final Prayer and BlessingReady to build the fulfilling marriage you deserve? Schedule a free, no-obligation strategy call with me. In 30 minutes, we'll create a three-step roadmap to set you on the right path. Just text 626-804-1731 or go to https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call today to schedule yours!

Identify the True Enemy: Winning the Spiritual Battle in Your MarriageIn this video, I explore the common conflicts in marriages, emphasizing that you and your spouse are not each other's enemies. The real enemy, Satan, aims to divide and conquer your marriage through lies, temptations, and unresolved anger. I offer three practical, Biblically-based steps to shift your perspective from fighting each other to fighting for your marriage. These steps include identifying the enemy's tactics, using confrontation, repentance, and forgiveness, and leveraging the power of praying together. I also offer a free downloadable Couple's Communication Guide to help you build a strong spiritual battle plan for your marriage.Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 The Recurring Fight: A Common Struggle00:27 Identifying the Real Enemy01:43 The Spiritual Perspective on Marriage Conflict05:00 Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Marriage08:52 The Power of Prayer in Marriage11:40 Final Thoughts and a Prayer for Couples12:18 Subscribe for More Marriage TipsHere's the link to the 5 R's of an Apology and why they matter: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cIf you'd like prayer for your marriage or relationship, call or text me at 626-804-1731 and let's schedule a call.

How to be a More Considerate SpouseIn this video, I delve into seven powerful Bible-based habits that can help you become a more considerate spouse and transform your marriage. From active undivided listening and speaking with kindness, to selfless service and praying together, these habits are designed to reignite connection and consideration in your marriage. Learn how daily acts of love and thoughtfulness can build a thriving relationship that reflects God's love. Here's the link to get your free couple's communication guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Strain on Modern Marriages01:20 Habit 1: Active, Undivided Listening02:40 Habit 2: Speak with Kindness and Gentleness03:58 Habit 3: Daily Specific Appreciation05:18 Habit 4: Selfless Service06:31 Mid-Video Check-In and Subscription Reminder06:57 Habit 5: Pray Together08:40 Habit 6: Apologizing and Forgiving Quickly10:04 Habit 7: Scheduled Uninterrupted Times to Connect11:27 Conclusion: Building a Stronger MarriageCheck out my video on How to Invite God into your Marriage. Here's the link: https://youtu.be/xgTEbnGZT8M🔗 Need support? Use the link in my profile to connect

Are you tired of hearing "I'm sorry" with no real change? Or maybe you’ve been on the other side—frustrated and hurt when your heartfelt apology wasn’t accepted by the person you offended. In this video, I break down the difference between just saying “I’m sorry” and true Biblical repentance—and why learning to truly repent can transform your marriage and all your relationships.As a pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach, I’ve seen firsthand how repentance—not just saying “I’m sorry”—brings real healing. If you’re ready to move beyond empty words and experience genuine restoration, this is for you.👇 TIMELINE:00:00 – Introduction: Why “I’m sorry” isn’t enough00:25 – The difference between just saying “I’m sorry” and repentance00:46 – Who I am & why I care about repentance in marriage01:05 – Two common scenarios: The cycle of empty apologies02:07 – What the Bible says about repentance (metanoia)02:50 – Repentance vs. just saying “I’m sorry”: Practical examples04:58 – Five Biblical steps to truly repent and restore your relationship05:03 – Step 1: Confess and repent to God first05:41 – Step 2: Acknowledge the specific sin06:29 – Step 3: Take full responsibility—no excuses07:02 – Step 4: Express heartfelt remorse07:33 – Step 5: Commit to specific change08:29 – How to respond when your spouse truly repents10:55 – Final encouragement: Repentance brings hope and healingIf you want to break free from destructive patterns and see real change, it’s time to repent—not just say “I’m sorry.” Repentance means turning away from old habits and aligning your heart with God’s. It’s not about using the word “repent” as a magic fix, but about living it out through your actions.💡 Download my free Couples Communication Guide—just type “guide” in the comments or use the link below!If this message on repentance helped you, please like, comment, and subscribe for more Biblical marriage coaching. And check out my video on the Five Rs of an Apology for even more practical help.repent #marriage #christianmarriage #relationshipadvice #restoration🔗Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide🔗 Five Rs of an Apology - https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cMay God bless you and your relationships!

Benefit of the Doubt in Marriage: 6 Biblical Strategies for a Stronger RelationshipAre you ready to transform your marriage by learning how to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt? Hi, I’m Kelly DuPee—pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author of "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want." In this video, I’ll show you how the biblical principle of giving the benefit of the doubt can change your relationship, prevent misunderstandings, and help you build a marriage that reflects God’s love.Timestamps:00:00 – Introduction: Why we jump to conclusions in marriage00:47 – What does it mean to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt?01:58 – Why it’s hard to give the benefit of the doubt03:12 – The negative cycle of assuming the worst03:36 – God’s example: How He gives us the ultimate benefit of the doubt04:41 – 6 Biblical Strategies to Give Your Spouse the Benefit of the Doubt05:08 – Strategy 1: Pause and Pray05:25 – Strategy 2: Ask Questions05:46 – Strategy 3: Share Your Feelings Without Attributing Motives06:11 – Strategy 4: Consider Alternate Explanations06:27 – Strategy 5: Make a Request, Not a Demand06:55 – Strategy 6: Remember Your Own Humanity07:18 – What if there’s a pattern of hurtful behavior?08:01 – The power of believing the best about your spouse08:24 – Your assignment: Practice giving the benefit of the doubt08:55 – Free Gift: The Couples Communication Guide09:00 – Next steps and recommended videoKey Takeaways:Giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt is a biblical principle rooted in grace, love, and understanding.Learn six practical, faith-based strategies to apply this principle in your daily life.Discover how to break negative cycles and create emotional safety in your marriage.Find out what to do when there are real issues that need to be addressed.Free Resource:Get my free ebook, "The Couples Communication Guide"! Click this link: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide or type “guide” in the comments and I’ll send it to you.Related Video:What Happens When You Assume the Worst – Watch here https://youtu.be/lhfbMFxDhhULet’s Connect:If this video helped you, please give it a thumbs up, subscribe for more biblical marriage content, and share your experiences in the comments below. Remember—with God’s help, your marriage can be a beautiful picture of His love for the world.Call or text me at 626-804-1731 to schedule a free strategy session or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-callbenefitofthedoubt #marriageadvice #christianmarriage #relationshipgoals #biblicalmarriage #kellydupee

Overcoming 'I Forgot': 5 Biblical Steps to Strengthen Your MarriageHave you ever found yourself saying, 'I forgot' to your spouse more often than you'd like to admit? Join me, Kelly DuPee, as I dive deep into the implications of forgetting important things your spouse requests. In this video, I uncover why 'I forgot' signifies deeper issues in your marriage, such as priorities, communication breakdowns, and lack of systems. I share five Biblical action steps to help you move past this habit, foster intentionality, and build a healthy, thriving relationship. Download my free Couple's Communication Guide and learn how to remember what matters to your spouse through ownership, systems, active listening, follow-through, and gratitude. Don't let 'I forgot' erode your marriage - tune in to start making a positive change today.Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Impact of Forgetting in Marriage01:10 Understanding the Deeper Issues01:52 The Consequences of Forgetting04:16 Biblical Action Steps to Overcome Forgetting04:41 Action Step 1: Own the Impact05:19 Action Step 2: Create Supportive Systems06:30 Action Step 3: Practice Active Listening07:10 Action Step 4: Follow Through07:41 Action Step 5: Connect Remembering to Gratitude08:40 Conclusion: The Power of IntentionalityFor more on this, check out this video - How to Ask your Spouse for what you Really want and Needhttps://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCgCall or text me at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call

Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage: Make and Keep PromisesIn this powerful episode, I address couples who are experiencing a breach in trust within their marriage. I delve into the issue of broken promises and how they can erode trust between spouses. Through actionable steps grounded in biblical principles, I guide you on how to prioritize your spouse's needs, communicate effectively, and honor your commitments. The process involves selecting one task to focus on, setting a realistic deadline, and following through with integrity. Additionally, I encourage examining internal resistance and embracing a servant-hearted approach through prayer. This episode includes a free couples communication guide and tips for asking your spouse for what you truly need. Join me as we work together to restore trust and strengthen your marriage.Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Pain of Broken Trust00:36 Hope and Restoration in Marriage01:18 Understanding the Deeper Issues02:32 The Power of Promises and Requests03:02 Step-by-Step Guide to Rebuilding Trust04:35 The Importance of Accountability07:20 Examining Your Heart and Praying for Perspective09:07 Final Encouragement and Prayer09:54 Next Steps and Additional ResourcesFor more on this, check out this video - How to Ask your Spouse for what you Really want and Needhttps://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCgCall or text me at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-callIs your relationship struggling with broken trust? This video provides vital relationship advice for couples navigating difficult seasons. Learn how to rebuild broken trust and prioritize your partner's needs. Discover practical steps to build trust and foster a stronger connection.

The stories we create about our partner's actions can significantly impact our relationships. Jumping to conclusions and assuming the worst can breed unnecessary problems such as resentment. Cultivating better communication skills is crucial for understanding and addressing concerns effectively, ultimately strengthening the bond and fostering healthier relationships.In this video, I address one of the most destructive patterns in relationships—false narratives. As an experienced pastor, police chaplain, and Christian marriage coach, I explain how these false stories formed in our minds can erode trust and weaken marriages. I offer a five-part Biblical solution called the PAUSE principle to help couples break free from this toxic habit. The steps include pausing to reassess assumptions, asking questions, understanding your spouse's perspective, speaking the truth in love, and extending grace and forgiveness. Watch till the end for a life-changing practical solution and a special offer!Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Power of Narratives in Relationships01:27 Understanding False Narratives03:19 The Three Reasons We Create False Narratives04:51 The Biblical Solution: The Pause Principle09:44 Applying the Pause Principle11:55 Conclusion: Transform Your MarriageFor more on this, check out this video - How to Ask your Spouse for what you Really want and Needhttps://youtu.be/2sUcdK5dPCgCall or text me at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call

How and Why to Forgive by Kelly DuPee - Pastor, Police Chaplain, Christian Marriage CoachIn this video, I discuss the important topic of forgiveness and its role in healing from deep hurt caused by others. I explain why forgiveness is essential for followers of Jesus and provide five compelling reasons to embrace it. I also outline actionable steps to help you forgive those who have wronged you, even when it feels impossible. By following these steps, you can find freedom from the prison of hurt and bitterness, and improve your relationships with others and with God. Want to improve the communication in your marriage? Here's the link to my free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: Facing Life's Devastating Blows00:37 Understanding Hurt and God's Healing01:22 The Power of Forgiveness02:01 Five Reasons to Forgive05:35 Steps to Forgive08:54 Conclusion: Embracing ForgivenessFor more on this, check out this video - The 5 R's of an Apology and Why they Matter. Here's the link: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cCall or text me at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call

Reignite Your Marriage: The Power of a One Night GetawayFeeling like your marriage needs a boost? A one-night getaway can be a surprisingly effective way to recharge your connection. Prioritizing that time for your relationship advice and intimacy can help you reconnect amidst the chaos. Consider this simple but powerful way to save your marriage. 🙏In this episode, Pastor, Police Chaplain, and Christian Marriage Coach Kelly DuPee shares his secret to recharging your marriage—a simple one night getaway. Kelly discusses how taking a short break with your spouse can refocus your energy on each other, reprioritize your marriage, and help you reconnect. He also provides practical steps to plan and execute this refreshing escape. Join Kelly as he explains the importance of balancing life commitments and making room for quality time with your spouse, even on a tight schedule.Want to improve the communication in your marriage? Here's the link to Kelly's free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguideFor more on this, check out this video - The Five R's of an Apology and why they matterhttps://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cCall or text Kelly at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call00:00 Introduction: Recharge Your Marriage00:29 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide00:39 The Power of a One-Night Getaway03:37 Steps to Plan Your Getaway: P-L-A-N03:45 Prioritize Your Marriage04:04 Logistics: Making It Happen05:36 Take Action: Book and Budget06:20 Enjoy Your Time Together06:45 Final Tips and Resources

Why Telling Your Spouse to Calm Down is Hurting Your MarriageJoin Kelly DuPee, pastor, police chaplain, Christian marriage coach, and author, as he explains why telling your spouse to calm down can escalate rather than diffuse tension. Learn seven biblical action steps to respond with compassion and wisdom: listening first, validating feelings, asking questions, offering presence, speaking gently, allowing space for processing, and following up. These principles promote deeper intimacy and stronger connections in marriage.Want to improve the communication in your marriage? Here's the link to Kelly's free Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Impact of 'Calm Down'00:24 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Marriage Coach00:51 Why 'Calm Down' is Harmful02:10 Biblical Principles for Responding to an Upset Spouse02:19 Action Step 1: Listen First, Speak Second03:12 Action Step 2: Validate Their Feelings04:34 Action Step 3: Ask Questions to Understand05:32 Action Step 4: Offer Presence, Not Solutions06:36 Action Step 5: Speak Gentle Words07:19 Action Step 6: Allow Space for Processing08:01 Action Step 7: Follow Up09:00 Conclusion: Building a God-Honoring RelationshipWhen your spouse is upset, telling them to "calm down" can quickly escalate things. Instead, practice active listening and show empathy to de-escalate the situation. Focus on marriage and use communication to build marriage strength.For more on this, check out this video - How to Stop Defensiveness. Here's the link:https://youtu.be/DUP8wWRew9UCall or text Kelly at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call

Trusting God Through Marriage Challenges: The ABCD MethodMarriage can be challenging, but it doesn't have to be walked out alone. This video encourages trusting God in hard times and finding strength in your faith. In this episode, Pastor Kelly DuPee discusses how to trust God during marriage challenges. He introduces the ABCD method to help couples strengthen their faith amid marriage struggles. The ABCD steps include Admitting you have a problem and asking God for help, Believing God will help you, Confessing and aligning your words with God's promises, and Doing what God says to do. Kelly emphasizes the importance of faith, humility, obedience, and taking actionable steps to transform your marriage.Here's the link to get Kelly's Couple's Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide00:00 Introduction: The Reality of Marriage00:37 Meet Kelly DuPee: Your Guide to a Blessed Marriage00:52 Identifying the Pain Points in Marriage01:26 The ABCs of Faith: Admit and Ask for Help02:35 Belief: Trusting in God's Power04:45 Confession: Speaking Faith into Existence07:13 Do: Taking Action in Faith09:01 Conclusion: Embracing God's RestorationFor more on this, check out this video - Inviting God into your marriage https://youtu.be/AH41nBtWzW8Call or text Kelly at 626-804-1731 for a free, no obligation Strategy call or use https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-clarity-call