How to Respond to Tantrums: Co-Regulation and Brain Science with Dr. Faye Poole

Why do small children have such massive reactions to seemingly tiny problems? In this kickoff to our new monthly series, child psychologist Dr. Faye Poole from Kerr Psychology⁠ takes a warm, honest, and direct look at the neuroscience of "big emotions." We dive into the physical reality of the developing brain, exploring how the amygdala and prefrontal cortex play tug-of-war during a meltdown.Faye explains the crucial difference between a tantrum and a true meltdown and offers practical, "in-the-moment" strategies like co-regulation and the "Name It to Tame It" technique. We discuss everyday triggers—from shoe-struggles to food refusal—and why your calm presence is the most powerful tool you have. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your child’s intensity, this episode provides the clarity and scripts you need to move from control to connection. It’s not about stopping the emotion; it’s about helping them navigate it.