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EPISODE · May 24, 2026 · 8 MIN

How to Stop "Avoidant Seeking" and Begin True Self-Healing

from Hypothetically Intentional · host Michelle Aalbers

Have you ever felt like an expert in the language of healing, yet still feel trapped in the same old patterns? In this solo episode, I share a sneak peek into my upcoming book, Never Broken, Never Healed, Always Whole. Together, we explore the concept of the Avoidant Seeker. The Avoidant Seeker keeps us in the loop of constantly gathering tools, books, and appointments as a subconscious shield against doing the actual, internal integration work.I break down the vital difference between your lowercase "s" self (the part shaped by wounds and conditioning) and your capital "S" Self (your wise, authentic observer). If you are tired of treating your healing journey like a transactional demolition project, this episode is your invitation to pause, surrender, and remember that you are already whole.In this episode, we discuss:Why we treat healing like a transaction and expect others to "fix" us.The trap of "avoidant seeking" and why our humanness prefers a painful known to an unpredictable unknown.Understanding the Lowercase "s" self vs. the Capital "S" Self.A powerful real-life client story illustrating the alchemy of surrender.The structural rhythm of the Choose Yourself® journey.Connect with Michelle:Ready to stop seeking and start landing? Book a personalized Soul Growth Tarot Coaching session with me to uncover the path your inner observer is trying to show you.Need a space to rest and just be? Submit your name to my Free Reiki Grid Requests and allow yourself to simply receive.Send us Fan MailThis podcast is provided for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only and does not constitute providing professional medical advice, diagnosis, treatment, or professional healthcare services.--------------------------------------------------------------Want more from Michelle? Visit ChooseYourself.comFind us on Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/michelleaalbers/ Instagram: @michelleaalbersFacebook: facebook.com/JaiDeeWellness/Instagram: @jaideestudioMusic Credit Through Season 3 Episode 41Title: Ebb and FlowAuthor: Fabian Measures https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Fabian_Measures/Source: Free Music Archive https://freemusicarchive.org/music/Fabian_Measures/Singles_Album/Ebb_and_Flow_1829/Licence: CC BY 4.0 https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Have you ever felt like an expert in the language of healing, yet still feel trapped in the same old patterns? In this solo episode, I share a sneak peek into my upcoming book, Never Broken, Never Healed, Always Whole. Together, we explore the concept of the Avoidant Seeker. The Avoidant Seeker keeps us in the loop of constantly gathering tools, books, and appointments as a subconscious shield against doing the actual, internal integration work. I break down the vital difference between your ...

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