How to Stop Doing Everything
from You Are Not A Frog
If you’ve ever thought to yourself ‘if I don’t do it, no one will’ this episode is for you. You tell yourself something important will go wrong if you don't do it all - but what if that's not what's actually driving your decisions? In this Quick Dip, Rachel suggests something uncomfortable: that the decisions running your workload might less to do with patient safety than they are to do with who you believe yourself to be. Because the question 'if I don't do it, who else will?' is often not about the risk of harm to patients, customers or colleagues – but more about the question ‘who am I if I don’t?’. And learning to spot the difference between the two will give you back some choice over your workload. Resources Mentioned The Shapes Academy You Are Not a Frog: The Over-Responsibility Trap series Part 1: Why Responsibility Keeps Landing on You Part 2: When ‘Can You Help?’ Doesn’t Feel Like a Question Part 3: How to Stop Feeling Guilty When It’s Impossible to Do Your Job Get more episodes and resources by joining FrogXtra Mentioned in this episode: Am I Stressed, Overwhelmed... or Burning Out? Get honest with yourself — discover what’s really going on, and what to do next. ⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now
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- 0:00 Intro
- 1:45 “If I don’t do it, who else will?”
- 2:25 When “patient safety” is actually identity in disguise
- 3:05 Saying yes under pressure
- 4:35 When saying yes creates the problem
- 5:35 Fear of being seen as unreliable, difficult, or not a team player
- 8:35 When requests feel like a test of your character
- 10:05 The urgency trap and why everything feels important
- 13:27 Why it’s so hard to refuse distress in others
- 15:27 Shame, identity, and automatic yes
- 17:27 The question that changes everything
- 21:27 Who do you want to be?
- 22:27 Rethinking kindness, honesty, and responsibility
- 24:57 A better question to guide your decisions
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