How to stop fighting over small stuff?

Send us Fan Mail Would you want to live with you? This powerful question lies at the heart of Ken and Tabatha's wisdom-packed conversation about marriage and relationships. Drawing from over 24 years of marriage experience, they tackle the essential principle that life is simply too short to sweat the small stuff. The couple explores how our memories work – we remember wedding days and children's births, not dirty dishes or minor frustrations. Yet many marriages crumble over "irreconcilable differences" that partners can't even specifically recall years later. Through personal stories and biblical principles, Ken and Tabatha outline practical ways to focus on what truly matters. One fascinating distinction they unpack is the difference between mothering and wifely support. A mother hovers and dictates, while a wife comes alongside to support and uplift. They introduce the concept of "incubation" – how a wife can nurture her husband's vision like a seed, helping it grow through encouragement rather than criticism. This partnership approach allows both spouses to rise together, creating a marriage where both partners feel valued and respected. Kindness emerges as a central theme throughout their conversation. Ken and Tabitha challenge the notion that kindness equals weakness, pointing to scripture that shows how love "is not easily angered" and "keeps no record of wrongs." They suggest becoming a "CEO" – Chief Encouragement Officer – in your home, creating an atmosphere of celebration rather than criticism. The episode culminates with a beautiful exploration of 1 Corinthians 13, revealing how these ancient principles of love provide practical solutions for modern relationship challenges. Whether you're newlyweds or celebrating decades together, this episode offers transformative perspectives on creating a marriage filled with patience, kindness and mutual support. Subscribe now and join us next Thursday for another powerful conversation about doing life together with purpose and love! 📖 ORDER BETTER MARRIAGE! Ready to build a stronger, healthier marriage? Order our new book, Better Marriage: Perfect Love for Imperfect Couples, by Ken & Tabatha Claytor. ❤️ 👉 Order your copy here: https://www.amazon.com/Better-Marriage-Perfect-Imperfect-Couples/dp/B0GNDV9MTW GET BUILD TO LAST PREMARITAL COURSE HERE: Your wedding lasts one day. Your marriage lasts a lifetime. Build to Last Premarital Course: https://kenandtabatha.com/built-to-last GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE: Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com) Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional: 90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site) DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️ https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888 📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville. 🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life! https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/5326 Support Our Ministry: https://myalivechurch.org/give Connect with us: - Website: https://www.kenclaytor.com https://www.tabathaclaytor.co...