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EPISODE · May 16, 2025 · 35 MIN

How to Stop Obsessing Over Boys & Start Obsessing Over You: self respect, validation + individuality

from Hot and Unbothered · host Brianna Gomez

You’re not crazy, clingy, or broken—you’ve just been conditioned to believe your worth is tied to someone else choosing you. In this episode of Hot and Unbothered, your host, Brianna Gomez, dives deep into the self-worth shift that changes everything. We’ll unpack why we lose ourselves in situationships, how to break the cycle of obsessing over men, and what it really means to choose YOU—first and fully. You’ll learn how to recognize when your attention is leaking, how to detach and how to turn your emotional energy inward—into self-respect, peace, and power. If you’ve ever felt like you're giving too much and losing yourself in the process, this is your reminder: you are the prize. And the glow-up begins the moment you stop chasing and start remembering who you are. Your worth was never up for debate. Your peace is not a negotiation. And your obsession belongs back on your healing, your habits, and your highest self. Remember to rate the pod 5 stars & leave a review to be featured in next week's episode! Subscribe to my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube channel⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for more! Join our Hot & Unbothered besties⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ groupchat to hold each other accountable! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Click here for my SUMMER PLAYLIST!⁠⁠ Tune in to learn how to unlock your highest, hottest, & HAPPIEST self and truly GLOW UP from the inside and out. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shop my sustainable made to order clothing line! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Stream Hot & Unbothered on ANY PLATFORM.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LET’S BE FRIENDS ♡: Hot & Unbothered is now on TikTok!:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@hotunbothered⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Hot & Unbothered Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@hotunbothered⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Keep up with me on Snapchat:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bbriannagomez  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Shop all my favorite things on my⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Amazon Storefront⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Bri's Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bbriannagomez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   Bri's TikTok:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bbriannagomez  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Pinterest:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bbriannagomez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠   Spotify:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@bbriannagomez⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Shop my Closet on Depop:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@xobbrianna ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ See you next Bri-day! xo, Bri 💌 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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