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EPISODE · Mar 18, 2026 · 37 MIN

How to use mansplainers to your advantage

from The Baddest Bitch in the Building

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes.In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes. Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go.Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage.This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help investigators gather information without triggering defensiveness. The same principles apply in everyday conversations, at work, in dating, and in social settings.I’ll discuss:The elicitation technique used by intelligence agencies to gather informationThe three-step formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantageThe psychology behind mansplainingHow to lower someone’s guard so they reveal more than they intendedHow “nice girl” conditioning trains women to give away their powerWhy strategic communication is not manipulationTimestamps:0:00 Intro3:30 How to use elicitation on mansplainers9:10 Unlearning “nice girl” grooming19:07 Join the Patreon20:54 The psychological formula33:41 Is this manipulative?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon!📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.Free preview available here.Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes.In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes. Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go.Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage.This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help investigators gather information without triggering defensiveness. The same principles apply in everyday conversations, at work, in dating, and in social settings.I’ll discuss:The elicitation technique used by intelligence agencies to gather informationThe three-step formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantageThe psychology behind mansplainingHow to lower someone’s guard so they reveal more than they intendedHow “nice girl” conditioning trains women to give away their powerWhy strategic communication is not manipulationTimestamps:0:00 Intro3:30 How to use elicitation on mansplainers9:10 Unlearning “nice girl” grooming19:07 Join the Patreon20:54 The psychological formula33:41 Is this manipulative?If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps__________🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.__________🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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