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I Didn’t Realize ‘Being in Control’ Was Holding Me Back in Love… Until This Relationship with Anna Bolender

from Perfectly Broken · host Dani Stedman

In this episode, I had the honor of being interviewed by my dear friend and fellow Somatic Embodiment leader, Anna Bolender, on her podcast Radiant You. This was such a special conversation because it’s the first time you’ll hear me on the other side of the mic—being held, witnessed, and guided by Anna’s intuition. We dive into my current relationship, the lessons it’s bringing up, and the real-time growth happening behind the scenes. From healing patterns around control and perfectionism to embodying feminine energy, surrender, and vulnerability—this conversation is raw, honest, and full of truth that might just mirror your own journey. Together, we explored parts of my story I haven’t fully shared before, allowing the conversation to unfold exactly as it was meant to for the collective.What you’ll hear:From survival to self-trust: I share my journey through trauma, eating disorders, and what it truly took to feel safe in my body again Breaking the “good girl” identity: We unpack perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the unconscious patterns that keep women stuckSurrender in real life (not just a buzzword): What it actually means to let go of control while still taking aligned actionMasculine vs. feminine energy in practice: How to move from burnout and force into balance, flow, and grounded structureLove, polarity, and conscious relationships: What it looks like to create safety, attraction, and depth through vulnerability and embodiment Softening into trust: How releasing control and honoring divine timing can open you to more ease, joy, and alignment than you imaginedSchedule a Session with Me Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join the Perfectly Broken: Path to Power Membership Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Fill out the Contact Me to Work Together⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.danistedman.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Anna:⁠@annaalexbee⁠Podcast: RADIANT YOU⁠www.annabolender.com⁠Let’s Connect⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@danistedman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@⁠⁠⁠⁠theperfectlybrokenpodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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