I Felt So Defeated

Are you aching for your husband to just acknowledge you?   Wishing for some clue that you matter to him?  That he thinks you get some things right once in a while?  That he feels that he’s in the right place and not sitting around daydreaming of being with someone else?Have you been trying to get him to realize this, but you just can’t seem to make any headway?  If you try to kindly explain your position he always manages to find a way to make it your fault! He keeps telling you you’re overreacting, and you just can’t accept that, so you point out that he’s obviously doing the same thing, and won’t admit he’s wrong.You just can’t win no matter which way you try, and every cry for help turns into another item on the list of what’s wrong with you.And it hurts!My journal entry from 2008 reads, “I lost it.  I felt so defeated- like I couldn’t do anything right.”  And then “It escalated really fast.” “I didn’t want to take it, and I kept repeating, “Likewise, likewise, likewise.” “I couldn’t get rid of my angry feelings.”So how do you get the validation you need from him?Learn more at bethechangeinyourmarriage.onuniverse.com           Message me on Instagram. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bethechangeinyourmarriage.substack.com