“I Hired a Private Investigator on My Husband” — The Partner’s Side of Addiction

Most of us don’t really understand what it’s like to love someone deep in addiction...until we’re living it.In this earnest and valuable conversation, Anita Ondine Smith opens up about being married to former NBA player Randy Livingston while he battled gambling addiction for over two decades. She shares the confusion, the shame, the moments she felt completely lost, and how she learned that love alone wasn’t enough.Anita talks honestly about:- The early signs she missed- Why she hired a private investigator- What “boundaries” actually mean (and why most people get them wrong)- The turning point that finally got Randy real help- Why compassion worked better than controlIf you’re the one struggling with addiction, or you’re the partner, family member, or friend trying to support someone — this episode is for you.Resources mentioned:- Anita’s book: ASSIST: How to Help a Loved One with a Gambling Problem Without Losing Yourself- National Gambling Helpline: 1-800-RESETConnect with Anita:- Instagram: @anitaosmith- LinkedIn: Anita Ondine SmithIf this helped you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it.