EPISODE · Mar 31, 2026 · 56 MIN
I Pretended I Didn’t Exist in My Own Home_ Ep. 17
from My Dope Blend Podcast w/Leslie & Greg Kirkland · host Shuhari Podcast Network
You know that feeling when you did the work but can't take the credit.But nobody ever asks you if that's okay.Especially if you're the one who married into it. People who have never picked out the dress and stayed silent… never planned the trip and let someone else take the bow… never walked into a room full of family and felt like a guest in your own life… …will still tell you to just be grateful you're there. And that's where the real damage begins. In this episode of My Dope Blend, we confront one of the most painful truths in blended families:you don't need more patience… you need permission to stop pretending. Because pretending isn't peace.It's swallowing. It's redirecting. It's crying in the shower and coming back out smiling.And when you do it long enough, it doesn't build strength.It breaks. This conversation dives into the invisible labor of bonus parenting, the silence men carry to avoid "the face," and why authenticity — not perfection — is what actually holds a blended family together. Because the truth is…after 13 years, you shouldn't have to pretend you didn't help pick out the dress. In this episode• Why bonus parents feel pressure to erase themselves from their own contributions• The silence men carry when honesty is met with comparison• Why pretending becomes a prerequisite in blended family dynamics• The role of wisdom and voice in breaking the pretending cycle• Why creating safety for your spouse changes everything #blendedfamily #bonusmom #marriagepodcast #mydopeblend #pretending #authenticity #mentalhealth #selfgrowth #relationships #healing #personaldevelopment #truth #emotionalhealth
What this episode covers
She picked out the dress, planned the trip, chose the shoes — and then had to pretend none of it was her idea. For 13 years. In this raw Season 3 premiere of My Dope Blend, Leslie and Greg Kirkland have the conversation most blended families avoid — the one about pretending. Leslie reveals the invisible labor of being a bonus mom: doing the work, absorbing the weight, and smiling through moments that quietly break you. Greg responds with a confession of his own — that men pretend too, because the one time they admitted they were tired, the response taught them never to say it again. You'll hear why pretending becomes a survival mechanism in blended families, how the "face" your spouse makes can shut down honesty for years, and what it actually takes to create a space where neither partner has to perform. This is the episode for every bonus parent who's ever cried in the shower and walked back out like nothing happened. You are not alone. And after listening, you won't have to pretend you are. Follow My Dope Blend — new episodes every week.
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