I Was Dating an Abusive Boyfriend for 35 Years (And He Was a Liquid)

One job. Alcohol’s one job was to “help” me avoid discomfort — and it kept me trapped like an abusive boyfriend for 35 years. In this Cappy Hour Podcast episode, we unpack the real relationship with alcohol addiction, social anxiety, triggers, cravings, and what sobriety looks like when you stop running from the feeling. From airport “gymnastics” (planning drinks like it’s automatic), to dating anxiety, to karaoke without a drink, we talk about embracing discomfort and rebuilding self-trust one decision at a time — plus the neuroscience of cravings (why the prefrontal cortex can feel like it shuts down) and how to practice healthier coping mechanisms instead of the old default. If you’ve ever used alcohol to feel “more confident,” “more social,” or “more comfortable,” this one will hit. In this episode, you’ll hear about: - Why alcohol feels like the “easy option” in uncomfortable moments - Social anxiety, awkwardness, and the fear of being judged - Triggers in everyday places (bars, airports, celebrations) - The mental loop that creates “permission” to drink - The sobriety paradox: avoiding discomfort makes you weaker - “Embrace the cringe” and stop living in a self-made prison Choosing self-love through consistency and recovery If you’re building your sober life: drop a comment with what situation you’re facing right now — dating, social events, travel, karaoke, job interviews, anything. - Like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this today. - If you’re listening on Spotify/Apple Podcasts, a quick rating helps a lot. Connect with Sober Cappy: My Community, register now: https://ilept.mn.co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sobercappy/ Guest: https://www.instagram.com/mysoberlight/