If you have closed your heart, he is still controlling your life! Love & Pleasure after Trauma for Women

Have you been telling yourself you have high standards, but underneath that is the fear of getting hurt again? In this episode, I share my own journey from a DV marriage through hyper-independence, high-functioning and emotional armour, to realising the men who hurt me were still controlling my life. I talk about the difference between protective walls and boundaries, what somatic self-trust actually changes, and how women can open up to love and pleasure after trauma without abandoning themselves. Start here: ⁠https://pleasurelit.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠You are functioning, but you are not feelingYou became the strong one early. The capable one. The good girl. It kept you safe, maybe even loved. And now you cannot stop. You hold it all together, your life, career, motherhood, relationships. You keep pushing, managing, people pleasing. A life on autopilot. Underneath all of it, you ask yourself: is this really it?Your mind rarely stops, your sleep is broken and your digestion is off. You move from one thing to the next and rest makes you uncomfortable. Your nervous system is stuck in a survival state. Your body has forgotten how to feel safe, how to soften, to receive, how to feel good.What is missing is not more effort. What is missing is somatic pleasure.I'm Patricia. I was the good girl, the caretaker, the independent one who looked fine from the outside. I survived abuse, an ED, and a DV marriage. I functioned without actually feeling anything. The shift came when I stopped trying to understand my patterns and started reconnecting to my body. Somatic pleasure changed everything - in my life, motherhood, business, and relationships.I am the founder of Pleasurelit®, the bestselling author of The Pleasurelit Way, host of the top 5% global podcast Pleasurelit with Patricia and an award winning pleasure explorer and educator. My trauma-informed somatic pleasure alchemy blends somatic healing, nervous system regulation, tantra, breathwork, yoga, and embodied pleasure.I guide women from high-functioning to feeling radiant, regulated & deliciously turned on.Pleasurelit. Somatic Pleasure for Women.Choose your path:Join The Pleasurelit Woman at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/the-pleasurelit-woman⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join The Pleasurelit Circle at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/the-pleasurelit-circle⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Access all my Online Courses at:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://pleasurelit.com/courses⁠⁠ (⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Use Code Pod10 to save)Get my bestselling book The Pleasurelit Way at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/the-pleasurelit-way-book⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply for 1:1:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/the-pleasurelit-hour ⁠⁠Apply for 1:1 Coaching: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book Patricia for your speaking/workshop: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/book-workshop-and-speaking⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Access my FREE workshop, episodes & more at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelitwithpatricia.substack.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Listen/watch my podcast at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Access Women's Pleasure Notes at: ⁠⁠https://womenspleasurenotes.substack.com⁠⁠Follow & connect with me at:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://pleasurelit.com/social-media⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Support my work & mission at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://pleasurelit.com/support-pleasurelit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠We would love to hear from you:What has resonated with you from this conversation?What do you feel called to share?Support the podcast: Follow/Subscribe to the show, rate it with 5 stars and share the episodes with others, so we can spread more pleasure into this world. You can also tag me, so I can re-share your love. Thank you.With love & pleasure,Patricia*For educational and informative purposes only