III. CONTROL OR BE CONTROLLED

Does being married means that you stop being free? I posit to you that the converse is true. Whether married or single we all like freedom. Yet, being free entails rules. Absent rules, all will be chaotic. Likewise, within marriages rules apply. However, these rules should not prevent you from being yourself or stifle your creativity. Neither should they make you a slave to your spouse's capricious whims. They should, however, allow you to freely submit to granting your spouse's request from a heart of love. That is why it is important that spouses are to be free to love. Forced love is not love. Therefore, there should be no compulsion or manipulation of wills. Respect your spouse; accept his or her individuality; and love him or her freely.