I’m not the problem. He is… But I can be part of the solution.

My son cut me out of his life seven months ago because he thought I said, I didn’t respect him. I didn’t. This is more of a reflection of his own in her mind. He just lost the first love of his life he flunked out of college he was very emotional time for him. I suggested an EMDR group for him That he was very resistant to. I can see in retrospect. He wasn’t ready to unpack the pain and his disappointment in himself. So he projected it onto me and made me into some kind of in his words manipulative and controlling parent. It’s been a struggle because I have a tendency to internalize these kind of things and look to see where my part is and take responsibility for my part. It also means that sometimes I blame myself more than I need to. The truth is, I’m not a controlling and manipulative parent. I’m a loving and firm parent. Who doesn’t take on other people’s responsibilities. I don’t rescue. I support.