Influencing the Irrational: Lessons from a Former Hostage Negotiator

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Mastering Negotiation: From Hostage Tactics to Everyday Deals with Susan IbitzSUMMARYIn this episode of Present Influence, host John Ball interviews Susan Ibitz, an expert in international hostage negotiation, interrogation, and behavioural analysis, about applying real hostage negotiation strategies to everyday situations. Susan shares practical tactics for establishing instant rapport, navigating irrational behaviour, and negotiating without scripts. She discusses the balance of warmth and assertiveness in communication and the importance of understanding both your own and others' irrational behaviours. The episode also highlights the value of strategic negotiation in various contexts, from personal relationships to high-stakes business deals, and encourages listeners to embrace their authentic selves to find their true tribe.CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction to Hostage Negotiation Techniques01:51 Meet Susan Ibitz: Hostage Negotiator and Behavioural Analyst02:24 The Importance of Authenticity and Finding Your Tribe03:25 Susan's Journey: From Personal Struggles to Professional Success08:53 Communication Techniques for Building Rapport13:21 Understanding and Managing Irrational Behaviour32:46 Reflecting on Fashion Choices34:01 The Challenges of Public Speaking35:07 Introverts vs. Extroverts in Public Speaking40:57 Finding Your Happy Place42:46 The Importance of Negotiation52:48 Overcoming Obstacles for Personal Growth01:01:08 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsVisit presentinfluence.com/quiz to take the Speaker Radiance Quiz and discover your Charisma Quotient. For speaking enquiries or to connect with me, you can email [email protected] or find me on LinkedInYou can find all our clips, episodes and more on the Present Influence YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PresentInfluenceThanks for listening, and please give the show a 5* review if you enjoyed it.Mentioned in this episode:Speaker Fee AuditFind out in less than a minute if you're undercharging for your speaking and where you need to look to fix any leaks with the Speaker Fee Audit. It's free to take and find out if you're missing out on money.

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