Intentional Matrimony: COVID Edition

00:40 - We back! Thrivin’ and survivin’. We’re excited about this episode today because we’re talking about the state of our marriages and all about our husbands, the lessons, the takeaways, and how we are doing it together.   2:55 - But first, what are you sippin’ on? Meka has the Meka blend, a peach, citrus, mint blend with just a hint of agave. Nique has peach oolong tea, a nice fruity, black tea. Be on the lookout for a tea list!   4:05 - Getting right into it: The State of Our Marriages. For Meka, she and Jacobi are getting on to year 8 together, 4 kids in, and finding balance with each other. He’s the calm to her crazy, the fun parent to her enforcer. Monique and Pierce are on 14 years together, 12 of those married! Nique is the orderly and laid back one and Pierce is the solid, visionary, planner.    7:57 - So, how has COVID impacted our relationships? It’s definitely annoying being together all the time. Yeah, we love each other, but your own space is nice. Meek finds her therapy in time away at the store, walking around getting groceries or doing a Target run.    10:55 - Meka stresses the importance of stopping and intentionally remembering your spouse. Getting a date night in is so nice! Having that time together, getting dressed up, having fun - it’s critical to reconnect one on one.    12:39 - Monique’s experience with Pierce during COVID… well, there was only one time during lockdown that she thought it was done. But those moments let us know how we can rebuild together to be stronger. Nique and Pierce are each other’s TEAM - built on Trust, Empathy, Adoration, and Mission.   16:40 - It’s always helpful to remember you were a couple first, you have so many shared experiences and memories, you grew together and it is a wonderful foundation to come back to when things get difficult.    18:45 - The ladies talk about the realness of needing their own space (maybe their own separate house) - so everything can be the way it needs to be, for serenity, for independence. Family can come visit, don’t worry! Having time to be yourself by yourself is so important to your mental health and wellbeing. What is your sacred time and space?   23:50 - Marriage and relationships are also about sex, but how has COVID and being home all the time changed our sex lives? The ladies share some wise words. Be intentional, keep the fire, find the spice, and find other couples who are gonna keep it real with you.    29:07 - We gotta wrap up with our drive tracks! Keeping with today’s theme, Meka is listening to Crazy in Love by Beyonce, and Nique is feeling two songs - you can always rely on Jhene Aiko but Moments by Big Sean really speaks to her right now.   Make sure to follow Meek and Nique on their socials!  Meka’s blog is Hanging with the Harrells and her instagram is @xomekaharrell. Nique’s website is Monique Hibma and follow her @moniqueimanhibma. Follow the show at @teawithmeekandnique on Insta to see behind-the-scenes and more content, make sure to use the #teawithmeekandnique so we can see what you’re sipping on, and say hello to your fearless hosts at meekandnique.com, and tune in for the next episode!