Is Daycare Causing ADHD? Debunking the Diary of a CEO Episode. (with Amanda Moses)

Someone sent you the clip. Or your friend messaged about it. Or your mother-in-law forwarded it without comment and you sat there for a minute knowing exactly what she meant by that. The Diary of a CEO episode with Erica Komisar — the one saying ADHD isn't real, it's a stress response, and if your child has it the inconvenient truth is that you caused it. Two and a half hours long. Fifteen million subscribers. Ranked second on Spotify globally. So it doesn't stay in the episode — it gets clipped and reposted and lands in your DMs.This is the debunk. Senior psychologist and ADHD assessor Amanda Moses is back — the actual person who spends her days doing the assessments. Fourteen years in the field, Australia and the UK. Amanda pulls the clips apart word by word. The genetics. The 'malpractice' claim about medication. The 1950s theory this whole episode is quietly rebuilding under a new name.CHAPTERS00:00 — The email from a listener that made me pick up the phone to Amanda01:00 — What Erica Komisar is, and what she isn't02:30 — Clip 1: 'ADHD isn't a disorder. It's a stress response.'03:20 — Why the drop-the-D movement isn't about stress — and the heritability she's leaving out06:03 — Clip 2: 'There is no genetic precursor to ADHD.'07:30 — One minute there's no gene. The next minute there is. Which is it?13:37 — Clip 3: 'The way we treat ADHD is malpractice.'14:35 — Amanda on her own medication, and 'what do you mean people walk around like this for free?'23:37 — Clip 4: 'When your child gets an ADHD diagnosis, the first thing you should do is see a therapist.'25:17 — Refrigerator mother. 1950s. Same architecture. New diagnosis.29:07 — Where Erica raised her children. And what she could afford to sacrifice.33:17 — The economics that make her advice a fantasy for anyone under fifty36:31 — Amanda's take-home: you did not cause thisWhat We CoverThe email from a listener that made Jane stop what she was doing and pick up the phone to AmandaWhat Erica Komisar is not — three qualifications she doesn't hold, one of which will surprise youThe exact quote from clip one that Amanda says has nothing to do with the actual conversation the field is havingThe number Steven Bartlett read out to Erica that she then argued didn't existThe 1950s theory about mothers that was dismantled decades ago — and the sentence in this podcast that revives it word for wordWhat Amanda said about her own medication that Jane says she wishes someone had said to her three years earlierThe scaffolding Erica had that made her parenting choices possible — and why no woman under fifty has that same scaffolding nowThe one sentence Jane wanted on the record because she couldn't say it professionally — Amanda's response is why you love herAmanda's one take-home if your stomach dropped listening to that clip and you don't know where to go with the guiltFree ResourcesHousehold Family Meeting Template — for the load this episode is really talking about — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-household-family-meeting-template/Explaining ADHD to Kids Guide — https://adhdmums.com.au/product/explaining-adhd-to-kids-parents-guide/Paid ResourcesADHD Mums Shop — https://adhdmums.com.au/shop/Related EpisodesADHD or PTSD? Why So Many Women Are Misdiagnosed — S2 EP82, with Amanda Moses — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-82-adhd-or-ptsd-why-so-many-women-are-misdiagnosed-with-amanda-moses/Is It Social Anxiety — or Is It Autism? — S3 EP34, with Amanda Moses — https://adhdmums.com.au/podcast_episode/episode-34-is-it-social-anxiety-or-is-it-autism-with-amanda-moses/References & Further ReadingOn ADHD heritability (the 74–80% figure):Faraone, S. V. & Larsson, H. (2019). Genetics of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. Molecular Psychiatry, 24(4), 562–575. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41380-018-0070-0On the polygenic architecture Amanda references (many genes, small individual effect):Demontis, D. et al. (2019). Discovery of the first genome-wide significant risk loci for attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Nature Genetics, 51(1), 63–75. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41588-018-0269-7On the 'refrigerator mother' theory Amanda names:The term originated with Leo Kanner in the 1940s and was popularised through the 1950s and 60s (most notably by Bruno Bettelheim). It was dismantled from the 1960s onward as autism's biological and genetic basis was established.About Amanda MosesAmanda Moses is a senior psychologist, board-approved supervisor, and ADHD and autism assessor with over 14 years of clinical experience across Australia and the UK. She specialises in complex assessments — the ones that don't fit neatly inside the box.Amanda offers clinical training and accessible resources for community members looking to understand autism and ADHD more holistically. Amanda's 'Understanding Neurodivergence Series' combine research, lived experience and practical reflection tools in a way that is clear and easy to follow. In 2026, the series was fully redesigned in collaboration with a professional designer and accessibility expert to improve visual accessibility and overall usability, while maintaining clinical depth. They are written for both therapists and neurodivergent people who want to better understand autistic and ADHD experiences. Each guide includes structured explanations and worksheets that can be used in therapy or independently. The focus is on supporting learning, self-understanding and strengths-based reflection in a way that is respectful and genuinely neurodiversity-affirming.Understanding Neurodivergence Series: https://www.amandamosespsychology.com.au/clinicalresources/?categories[]=understanding-neurodivergence-series#category-tilesAmanda's Instagram📬 Listener Questions & Community🎙️ Ask a Listener Question (voice)Voice notes are preferred when possible — hearing your voice helps add context — but you’re very welcome to submit a written question instead.Send a WhatsApp voice or written on 0403 457 313Send a SMS voice or written on 0403 457 313👥 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook Group👥 Receive the episodes in your inbox