Is It Codependency or Just Being Nice?

Send us a text Ever wondered if you're too giving in relationships? That nagging feeling that you're always putting others first might not just be generosity—it could be codependency.The revelation hit me hard. As someone who prided myself on independence—building businesses, attending law school, traveling solo—how could I possibly be codependent? That was for "weak" people, right? Wrong. In this deeply personal episode, I'm joined by licensed psychotherapist Connie Curlett to unpack what codependency actually means and why successful, capable people often struggle with it most.Connie breaks down how codependency manifests as giving too much while receiving too little, driven by an underlying fear of abandonment. We explore the critical difference between genuine support and codependent behavior (hint: it's all about internal versus external motivation), and why setting healthy boundaries feels so terrifying when you've been conditioned to prioritize others' comfort above your own needs.This conversation offers revelatory insights for anyone questioning their relationship patterns. Whether you're recovering from divorce, rebuilding your identity, or simply wondering why your relationships leave you feeling depleted, Connie provides practical strategies for healing—from increasing self-compassion to recognizing when fear is driving your decisions. She explains why others might resist when you begin setting boundaries and offers guidance on staying the course despite pushback.Ready to become the star of your own life rather than perpetually playing supporting roles in others' stories? This episode provides the roadmap for moving from codependency toward authentic connection—with yourself and others. Your journey to healthier relationships starts here. To reach Connie, visit her website at Conniecurlett.com 🎥 Want to watch my journey? Subscribe on YouTube at youtube.com/sharileid  💌 And don’t forget to grab my free 52 Weeks of Connection email series—one weekly challenge to help you feel more connected and build real friendships as an adult. It’s free, simple, and you can unsubscribe anytime. Sign up at: https://zc.vg/ZDPo2 And if you’re ready to go even deeper,  learn more about my Flip the Box® Retreats for women—three unforgettable days designed to bring you home to yourself. While most retreats take you away, these retreats are about helping you reconnect with who you are, what you want, and the life you’re meant to live.  Learn more about the retreats at https://animperfectlyperfectlife.com/working-together To purchase my latest book, Table For 51, visit: https://a.co/d/cL7uYIy Let’s dive in—reinvention, real talk, and a whole lot of laughter start NOW! #animperfectlyperfectlife #sharileid #newbeginnings #theartofreinvention #lilfecoach #midlifecoach #selfhelp #livewithpurpose #divorce #tablefor51 #50statesproject #flipthebox #keynotespeaker #connectioncoach #belonging #creatingbelonging #keynotespeaker #relocation