Is Venting Healthy? The Surprising Truth About Anger

Doing Marriage Well — May 25, 2026: This episode examines whether venting actually helps with anger and why many studies show it keeps us stuck in a fight-or-flight state instead of calming us down. Paul explains the difference between healthy reflection and harmful venting, and offers practical alternatives to reduce arousal—breathing exercises, long hugs, and slow walks (especially without rehashing the issue). Learn how to ask your spouse to help you calm down rather than validate your anger, and why using your partner as a verbal punching bag harms your marriage.