“It’s Not What You Can Bench, It’s What You Can Carry” | Infant Loss and Grief | Lindsay Hernandez

Andres and Brooke welcome Lindsay Hernandez for a candid conversation during Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. Lindsay shares the story of her son’s birth at 34 weeks, the frantic minutes in the O.R., and the autopsy findings that revealed VATER syndrome and a trachea that did not connect to the lungs. She speaks to the paralysis of those moments, the shock of leaving the hospital without her baby, and the long game of grief that reshapes marriage, parenting, and community. Together, they discuss what support really looks like after "casseroles" fade, the difference between sprinters and marathoners, and how comparison can give way to compassion. Lindsay also describes founding the Christian Michael Hernandez Foundation and the perspective shift that guides how she parents today.We explore:Pregnancy and infant loss, NICU response, and unanswered what ifsVATER syndrome, monitoring, and why the outcome still changed everythingCommunity care, sprinters and marathoners, and feeling less aloneChoosing perspective, carrying grief, and parenting after lossPractical hope that honors a child’s life while living your ownChristian Michael Hernandez Foundation:⁠http://www.christianmichaelhernandez.org/⁠VATER Syndrome ⁠https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/24083-vater-syndromeEmail Us: [email protected] & More: https://www.traumauncensored.com/Be a guest: [email protected] Newsletter: https://mailchi.mp/traumauncensored/episode-releasesInstagram: @traumauncensoredTikTok: @trauma.uncensoredYouTube: @traumauncensoredIf you are struggling or worried about someone, call or text 988, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, for free, confidential support, 24/7.Content Disclaimer:This episode includes pregnancy and infant loss, neonatal death, emergency delivery, medical details related to VATER syndrome and NICU efforts, grief, and funeral planning.