Judging others in perimenopause, how to stop judging and how it helps you

Hey there, is that a new haircut? 😏Suuuuure… it looks niccceee. (Said with a little too much sarcasm.)Don’t worry — that’s actually not me.That’s me giving you a sneak peek into today’s topic:Judgment 😬 Dun, dun, DUN!We’re talking about how easily we slip into judging other women — especially when we’re feeling insecure ourselves. And how we can shift from judgment to empathy, support, and solidarity.In This Episode✨ What judgment looks like — and how it sneaks into our thoughts✨ The moment I caught myself being a “judgy mcjudgerson”✨ How to flip judgment into compassion✨ The surprising benefits of cheering each other on✨ Why peri/menopause can make judgment harder✨ Hope + sisterhood moving forwardMy Aha MomentI found myself judging someone who seemed “perfect”:PetitePerky boobsToned, zero fatPerfect hair & makeupI mentally wrote her off with all the clichés…“Fake.”“Social media perfection.”“Lucky genetics.”Then later — on a walk — I realized…I preach being a girl’s girl.Supporting ALL women.Not just the ones who look like they need support.I’ve sat across from women of every appearance in therapy — and every one of them has struggles.We truly never know what someone is carrying.How We Shift From Judgment → EmpathyNot a new formula — but powerful:1️⃣ Catch yourself in the moment (or after the fact)2️⃣ Interrupt the thought with a new one3️⃣ Repeat until your brain learns a new trackTry thoughts like:“How do I know her home life isn’t falling apart?”“She may be carrying a private battle.”“Everyone deserves grace.”“I have faults too.”“What would help her right now?”Say it. Write it. Practice it.Little by little, belief shifts.How This Changes UsWhen we judge less, incredible things happen:✔ We soften toward ourselves✔ We feel more grounded & confident✔ We respond with compassion rather than snark✔ We stop seeing other women as competition✔ We create community instead of comparison trapsWe offer:A smile instead of a glare.Help instead of dismissal.Kindness instead of a comeback.Why This Is Extra Hard in Peri/MenopauseOur bodies are changing.Hormones are fierce.Self-esteem feels fragile.We may judge others to soothe discomfort in ourselves:💬 “Well at least I look better than she does…”💬 “She must have had work done.”💬 “She’s handling this way easier than me.”But here’s the truth:No one breezes through peri/menopause.Even the women who look like they have it all together are fighting something too.There is no right or wrong way to do this:Hair dyed or grayGLP-1 or notBotox or embracing wrinklesSupplements, meds, exercise — whatever your pathIt’s all valid.Menobodies TakeawayLet’s loosen judgment.Let’s increase compassion.Let’s support every version of womanhood — including our own.You are safe here.You are welcome here — however you show up.Continue the ConversationIf this episode resonated:💌 DM or email your thoughts — you’re never alone👯 Share with a friend who might want to become a Menobody too📱 Invite someone into this supportive spaceUntil next time…✨The light in me reaches to the light within you — so we can both shine.✨Connect with Beth:💌 Email: [email protected] 📱 Instagram & Facebook: @menobodies🌐 Website: www.menobodies.com/home🗞️Newsletter:www.menobodies.com/newsletter