Just 'Find a Good Stopping Place on the Ipad' It's 5:45pm on a Wednesday. He's in a Minecraft Cave. The Dog Needs a Bone.

📬 Listener Questions & CommunityIt's 5:45 PM. I'm cooking three separate dinners on not enough burners. My six-year-old is crying about the green spoon. My eight-year-old is in a Minecraft cave with a dog that needs a bone. My ten-year-old has found paint.'Find a good stopping place' is good advice.It just assumes conditions that don't exist in this house.What We CoverThe 5:45 PM scenario in full — three kids, three meals, three headphones, zero spare burners, and what it actually costs to transition one child off a screen while managing the restCompliance depletion — why your child has run out of yeses by dinner time, and why that's not defiance or addictionSelf-determination theory and autonomy — why the iPad might be the only thing your child got to choose all day, and what happens when you take itWhy 'find a good stopping place' works on Saturday morning and collapses on Wednesday night — and what's actually different between those two momentsThe working memory piece — why your child isn't defying the boundary, they just can't hold it without you standing thereTask-switching costs for the ADHD brain — what every transition actually costs you at the end of the dayWhy you're not managing the transitions. You are the transition.The Saturday morning benchmark — why one good morning doesn't set the standard, and why comparing Wednesday night to it is destroying youWhat the parenting advice doesn't account for: one adult, multiple kids, depleted executive function, and no supportFree ResourcesSurviving the Mental Load of the School Year (Free)👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-school-year-mental-load-kit/Household Family Meeting Template (Free)👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/product/adhd-household-family-meeting-template/Paid ResourceMeltdown & Shutdown Guide for Mums & Children👉 https://adhdmums.com.au/product/navigating-meltdowns-strategies-for-parents/Related EpisodesWhen a Neuroscientist Says iPads Cause ADHD — And You Wonder if You've Damaged Your Kids | Listen hereS3 EP44 — Why Bad Behaviour Is Rarely Bad at All (and How to Respond Instead) | Listen hereS3 EP12 — Quick Reset: I Can't Stop Snapping When My Child Does This One Thing | Listen hereS2 EP84 — I Love My Family… But I'm So F**king Angry (Mum Rage Part 1) | Listen hereS2 EP27 — Quick Tip: I Have an Antagonist in My House | Listen here🎙️ Ask a Listener Question (voice)Voice notes are preferred when possible — hearing your voice helps add context — but you’re very welcome to submit a written question instead.Send a WhatsApp voice or written on 0403 457 313Send a SMS voice or written on 0403 457 313👥 Join the ADHD Mums Facebook GroupFor community, shared language, and conversations with other mums who get it.https://www.facebook.com/groups/adhdmumspodcastReferencesArnsten, A. F. T., & Li, B.-M. (2005). Neurobiology of executive functions: Catecholamine influences on prefrontal cortical functions. Biological Psychiatry, 57(11), 1377–1384. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biopsych.2004.08.019Arnsten, A. F. T. (2011). Catecholamine influences on dorsolateral prefrontal cortical networks. Biological Psychiatry, 69(12), e89–e99. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.biopsych.2011.01.027Barkley, R. A. (1997). Behavioral inhibition, sustained attention, and executive functions: Constructing a unifying theory of ADHD. Psychological Bulletin, 121(1), 65–94. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.121.1.65Baumeister, R. F., Bratslavsky, E., Muraven, M., & Tice, D. M. (1998). Ego depletion: Is the active self a limited resource? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 74(5), 1252–1265. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.74.5.1252Hagger, M. S., Chatzisarantis, N. L. D., Alberts, H., Anggono, C. O., Batailler, C., Birt, A. R., Brand, R., Brandt, M. J., Brewer, G., Bruyneel, S., Calvillo, D. P., Campbell, W. K., Cannon, P. R., Carlucci, M., Carruth, N. P., Cheung, T., Crowell, A., De Ridder, D. T. D., Dewitte, S., . . . Zwienenberg, M. (2016). A multilab preregistered replication of the ego-depletion effect. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 11(4), 546–573. https://doi.org/10.1177/1745691616652873Herwig, U., Bräuer, K., Connemann, B., Spitzer, M., & Jakobs, O. (2018). Selective impairment of attentional set shifting in adults with ADHD. BMC Psychiatry, 18, Article 334. https://doi.org/10.1186/s12888-018-1912-5Monsell, S. (2003). Task switching. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 7(3), 134–140. https://doi.org/10.1016/S1364-6613(03)00028-7Rubinstein, J. S., Meyer, D. E., & Evans, J. E. (2001). Executive control of cognitive processes in task switching. Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance, 27(4), 763–797. https://doi.org/10.1037/0096-1523.27.4.763Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2000). Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist, 55(1), 68–78. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.55.1.68