Learning to Human Without the Handbook | Consuela Esseboom EP15

When you see the world in blueprints and everyone else sees chaos, being different isn't wrong. It's just a different operating system.In this episode, I sit down with Consuela Esseboom, a psychologist, corporate EQ specialist, and founder of The Village. We talk about being diagnosed with autism at three and having a mother who decided she'd "grow out of it," why not having labels hurt in some ways but helped in others, and what she calls "outsider privilege." Consuela shares how she sees the world in blueprints, scanning every environment like a machine creating a 3D model, why deep processing means she can breathe underwater but drowns at the surface, and how she's learned to live her life in seasons. We explore the loneliness of high intelligence, why she's attracted to people who are puzzles to solve, her mission to create a library of knowledge on how to human better, and why friendship and communication should be taught in schools.If you've ever felt like everyone else had a manual to life that you didn't receive, if you process everything more deeply than those around you, or if you've had to find your own creative ways to fit into systems that weren't designed for your brain, this conversation is a reminder that different isn't wrong. It's just different.Episode Highlights: (00:00) From psychology to corporate EQ and teaching people to human better(07:19) Why having labels hurt but also created "outsider privilege"(10:50) Seeing the world in blueprints through pattern recognition(26:28) Purpose over IQ and why giftings serve a mission(35:53) Feeling like an outsider who didn't get the manual to life(42:26) The Village mission: mental health resources for African and Caribbean communities(48:58) Living life in seasons and organizing procedurally not taxonomicallyConnect with Consuela Essebomhttps://www.instagram.com/consuelaesseboom/https://www.linkedin.com/in/consuela-esseboom/Say Yes to The Therapist: https://www.eventbrite.nl/e/tickets-say-yes-to-the-therapist-1981498184410?utm-campaign=social&utm-content=attendeeshare&utm-medium=discovery&utm-term=listing&utm-source=cp&aff=ebdsshcopyurlConnect with Mehttps://www.linkedin.com/in/aniahulsman/https://www.aniahulsman.com If this episode spoke to you, please consider subscribing and leaving a review. It would mean the world to me personally, and it really helps others who need to hear these kinds of stories to find the podcast.  Until next time, stay messy. Stay magnificent and stay true to your weird, wonderful self!