lets talk about gay shame

In this episode, we're talking about gay shame - and not in the way you might expect. This isn't about hating yourself for being gay. It's the quieter stuff. Lowering your voice around straight men.Calling your boyfriend "they" in certain conversations. Laughing at a joke that actually stings. We get into where that shame comes from, how it gets passed down through playgrounds and classrooms and silence, and why it's so hard to spot in your adult life - because by the time you're grown, it doesn't look like shame anymore. It looks like perfectionism, or people-pleasing, or always finding a reason to walk away from the good stuff. If any of that sounds familiar, this one's for you.Want to go deeper? The Hey Gay Boy Substack is where I explore all of this in long form, with thousands of subscribers already in the community. Find it at jameswallis0.substack.comCome and say hello on Instagram @james_wallis and TikTok @jameswallis_If you'd like to support the podcast, you can buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/jameswallis.Everything else is at linktr.ee/jameswallis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.