Come on. This is how that's being this broadcast podcast. And I am on the line with my very good friend, Denise. Hey, super excited to be here.
I listened to some of your podcasts earlier while I was working. Very nice. Well, I like to get started with a couple of questions about your good person that I'm talking to and who they are and what they do and all that stuff. But before I do, I just wanted to tell everybody, by popular demand, I took a poll.
I asked everybody what they wanted to talk about. Everybody wanted to talk about sex. Well, yeah. And I was like, OK, it's not my fault.
You guys want to talk about it? So just for preface, if you have children in the room, you might want to put their earmuffs on before we get started. Go give them a movie or something. Yeah.
All right. So Miss Greenway, would you please tell us a little bit about yourself, who you are, where you come from? OK. What do you do?
What I do? I do a lot of things. I'm 27, going on 70, like an old lady every day. I've done a little bit of everything.
I grew up in Georgia in kind of like a rough family. And I got into porn when I was 18 and did that for a little bit. Actually, it's how I paid off all my medical bills. At the time, I thought paying off medical bills was important.
I didn't realize that everybody has medical bills. But so I did that for a little bit. I've bartended every in gyms. And now I pretty much just live solely on my modeling content, which is also my photography content.
We shoot most of the stuff, either Nick shoots it up me or I shoot it up myself, which sounds very 2018. But it's a little bit easier to shoot yourself naked in the middle of nowhere, if you can just set up a tripod, get it done and get out. So I went from technically being a sex worker to now selling sex with no sex in them. It's a little bit of like a reverted back.
And then we do a lot of conservation work. We help fool trash out of the ocean. We currently work with primates and giving them better care until they move on with their life. I'm also a mother.
I have a five-year-old. I raised her four years by myself. So I know a little bit about dating with a kid as well. Having a trying to have sex life with a small person in your life.
So yeah, I've got a weird lifestyle. And you're engaged. Yeah, I'm engaged. Getting married is expensive and a lot of paperwork.
And so we haven't set a date or planned it at all. It's a whole other deal. Yeah. It always cracks me up with people like playing these weddings like four years out.
I'm like, we're lucky. Yeah. You know, I kind of just want to do like either in the woods or on the beach, just everybody gets together and like have a party like, Nick and I will sign the paper somewhere else. We don't need like all the crazy vowels and like this huge ceremony.
I'd rather just be like this gigantic party where people give us gifts. Yeah. That's really the only, that's like the best part about wedding, right? It's like the food.
Everybody's drunk. You get to wear something cool. And next day you get a bunch of gifts, which most of them. Sometimes cash.
Literally the best part about wedding is the party. Yeah. It's just having your people out the rest of it. The rest of it.
Also, I think the biggest thing like when we're talking about all this stuff, because you know, we've hung out, we've had lots of conversations about all these different things. And like it comes down to this. I feel like for most women, it doesn't really like what age you are, what stage you are of life. Like a lot of times people talk about like a certain age, like they're just like, they're sex like just cracked off where like they hit their sexual peak and then they like couldn't.
And I do feel like there's something to that. Like when I hit probably 27, 28, I was like my pants were on fire. That's why I was gonna die. Like I needed to do it all the time.
But you know, it has a lot to do with your life and your lifestyle. And if you've got kids running around and 27, 28 years old, you got toddlers and stuff like that, it might not be the same way. It might be like I'm tired. I can't handle like even thinking about sex.
There's kids finding in my back. But whatever you're at, whatever stage of life you're at, whoever you're with, I just want to preface it by saying like I'm not encouraging people to go out and just have like random sex with strangers. That's not what I'm here to talk about. I'm talking about like in order for us to be healthy females and us to be healthy adults, what does it take for your sex life to be active and healthy and for you to enjoy sex or for you to enjoy orgasms if you're having sex with someone.
Well, and I think a lot of times with women too, like it gets so everything gets so suppressed because anytime that you are sexual, especially like me as a mother, you know, people sometimes are like, you can't be sexual, you have a kid. And I'm like, no, I want her to also be in control of her sexuality because when she's a small adult, I want her to know, yes, I'm okay with this. I know I'm not okay with that. And I think that that kind of power like knowing what you want and what you like and how you're going to get that, make sure I'm more secure female.
You're not so needy. And you're not looking for love in the wrong places because I think that sex is like going to bring you love. Right. So I think that's definitely something to be said for that.
And then the other part of that is like, we can just touch on this for a second. I don't want to get stuck on it, but I feel like so many women, especially older than us, like really, really, really were shamed for their sexuality and for grand sex and for feeling good about sex and things like that. And so it created a culture of like shame, shame based, everything, which then led women to never enjoy sex. They felt that they don't get good sex and just be like, well, this is the way it is.
I've been with this man forever and we don't have sex instead of trying to find what it is that they like. Right. Right. And so here's what I wanted to go over with you because I feel like you've got this figured out for sure.
I feel like there's probably two or three main things that like set people up for like great sex. And I will let you tell me if you think some of these are and I'll tell you what I think some of these are. But for me, I'll say number one way to set yourself up for great sex is to constantly, like it has nothing to do with anyone else. Like constantly do things that make yourself feel and look good.
Oh, yeah. You can care of yourself getting in like this sensual sexual place with yourself, whether it's like shaving your legs every day or taking a shower or like whatever it is for you because maybe it's not like straight up. I just need to like shame my legs every day. Maybe you don't give a shit.
But for me, I know like doing things like that, like taking back that night huge for me, shaving my legs every day huge for me, like making sure that I feel like in the woods in RV and I don't have hair. That's just that's a clear cut thing for me. Like if I'm going to have sex, I'm not going to have hair. Right.
So it's like for me to feel great and feel like I'm like somebody who can be a sexual being. I have to look and feel and smell good. Yeah. Taking care of like the basics and like making sure that I'm setting myself up for success in that arena.
Like if you're around your kids all day long and they're climbing all over you and they're slipping their iPads under the door. And once you put in your password and they're like, you know, you're changing shitty divers and whatever, whatever, whatever. Go take a fucking bath. Yes.
You know what I mean? Or just like I, we don't really do like a lot of babysitters or stuff like that. I feel like for parents, even if you have to sacrifice just like, because I don't think that people should only have sex at night. I think that that's weird.
Like if you're not doing it during the day two, then it's kind of strange. But even if you just, hey, small person, here's a movie. Go watch that and here's some snacks. Like just prepare them to like be in one place for a minute.
So you know where they are and that they're okay. And then it's like, there's nothing wrong with a quickie. I feel like everybody's always like, maybe it's more so dudes like shaming quickies like go out and last longer. But there's a quickie.
A daytime quickie is like the best thing on the planet because you can just give what you need to move on with your life. It doesn't have to be drawn out. Yeah. That's a very good point.
I feel like my search quickies. Exactly. And then the other thing with that is like if you do, that's what you do. Like don't like feel so freaked out about your kid coming around.
Like you've got to let that shit go. Like people freak it out in the closet or worried that their kid might hear them or whatever. Yeah. I mean, go.
I actually have a really funny story. Um, one morning, I was like eating breakfast and I had to like, I'm lucky that I saw this on the fly. But I'm Callie asked me. I was like, Mommy, why do you cry sometimes at night?
And I was like, well, I'm like, I'm not a cryer. So I was like really confused. And she's like, yeah, sometimes you and Nick are together and you're crying. And I was like, oh, you know how mommy goes to the gym?
Well, sometimes Nick gives me these back massages and they make me cry because I, oh, they're back and she's like, oh, I can do that to you. And I was like, oh, it's fine. It's good for me. And she doesn't know what he did.
She's like, okay, apparently when Nick gives mommy back massage, she makes weird noises. Super painful. Yeah. But they're going to hurt your child by having a healthy sex life.
People got to get moved on. And then the other thing, and this is where I wanted you to kind of touch on too, is like getting in that position where you're doing things and seeing yourself as a sexy person. Like, to me, like if you really sat there and look across the board at women, some of the sexiest women to me are not in perfect shape with like abs and whatever. There's so many different forms and sizes of sexy and being really, really comfortable in your own skin and then knowing how to like see yourself as a sexual being.
And that's what I wanted you to talk about if you've got any input. Yeah, I think some of that comes from like you said, like setting yourself up to feel sexual. Like, I'm not someone that I have to be like perfectly groomed or anything like that. But if I can do something small, like I wake up and put on like a little bit of makeup that makes me a little bit better or I wear like a cute kind of like sexy outfit like a crop top or something and like just small things.
If you, as you're doing this, you're like telling yourself, you're like, that looks great. It's over time just like a self-affirmation or one point I did not have a very good actor. You know, I got divorced and I had a baby sitting in my lap as a single mom carrying her everywhere. You just don't feel super sexy.
And so doing small like self-affirmations, like just getting ready and being like, yeah, I look fucking good. I don't give a shit if I have abs or if I ran 10 miles yesterday or if I ate quicitos. Like I'm a sexual person and if somebody doesn't like the way I look, I'll fuck them because I'm great in bed. So I'm gonna move on.
And I'm having that type of like, not a narcissist, but having that type of confidence carries over because then whenever you want to try something new, you're not scared to ask for it and you're also not the person sitting in the background like, oh, I don't know like, you know, I really always thought about anal, but I just, I just can't ask for what if bad happens like you're just secure with yourself and you're just, I'm gonna try this and something goes wrong. It goes wrong. And the person I'm with is freaked out by the man. Well, maybe that's not the right person to be with.
You want to make sure that person that you're around to is also comfortable with their sexuality and they're comfortable with you. So if there's not like that line of trust there, then you're never gonna be able to be like really open, you know? Yeah. And there definitely has to be like communication about what you want and you have to be with like come to grips with if you like something talking about it.
And you don't like something talking about it. And it has to be, there has to be a sort of a, to me, I think there's some certain things that women just like roll out because they're afraid of them and they like are absolutely against, I'm not doing this. I'm not doing that. But maybe they just have done it with the right person and maybe they need somebody to teach them how to do it.
Yeah. Those are things that like that took me that because I was like, I took me a long time to try new things and figure out what it was exactly that I liked. So sometimes you need somebody to, you can't just be completely close minds to everything. You've got to get things to try because now there's things that I never would have done that are my favorite.
Right. I like that too with couples, I think sometimes jump into threesomes and they're just like, oh, for sex life design, let's just go have three cents. I feel like that's the worst time to have a threesome. Like if your sex life is bad and you guys go sleep with someone else and it's good, then you're always going to associate good sex having someone else.
So instead like fix your own sex and then maybe bring somebody else in. And I think with that too with women, like guys don't, I don't think guys give a fuck. Like you could tell a dude, we're going to go bang. We're having different people tonight.
They'll be like, cool. We're going to be like, they're not ever going to care. Most of the time I'm pretty sure you can get away with anything with men sexually with it. So I think that women need to kind of set the boundaries because men are not going to do that.
And then if you're not going to have a threesome or something, find out what makes you feel uncomfortable about it and then set those boundaries and say with anything like, hey, I'm cool with doing anal, but I only want to toy in there, not you or whatever. Just like having those boundaries will also make you feel more secure. And then you'll start to find things that you like and you'll feel more sexual over time. And also I don't think women masturbate enough.
I think that that's a pretty big like across the board thing I've noticed women are all like, oh my God, relying on like, oh, I've got to go find a guy to be with or else I'm never going to get, you know, like a fucking sex toy because if you aren't sure if you want a guy to do it to you, why don't you try it on yourself first? If you like it when you do it, you might like it when someone else does it too. And there's a huge, there's a huge, there's a huge to me, like, if you're relying on someone else to take care of you all the time, like, you're going to be disappointed. And then you're going to be pitchy.
Even more so because you're going to have like blue balls and it's like blue ovaries. It's not going to be bad to be bad news fair. I always tell my friends that like, you have got to either get laid or like take care of it constantly. Like I'm saying like every day, it's not every day, every other day.
Yeah. And that's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, you know, you know, never, you're not having like good orgasms. You're just adjusting to that. Like making that happen for yourself.
Then you can make it happen like in a sexual place with someone else too, you know? Yeah. And then there's one other thing I wanted to talk about too. And I know you probably dealt with a lot of this just because you went through your medical stuff and you can maybe touch on that.
But like, I know there's stages of life and there's things where people are like really struggling and health wise and it's just not there. And if you are dealing with that, or let's say you're on antidepressants or anti-insiding that can't shit in that stuff, can all crush your sex drive. So if you're on those things, I would highly recommend trying to get off of them, like going to the gym or trying to like try alternative stuff. Like if you're in a state that allows you to smoke weed or do edibles or something like that.
So like deal with your anxiety or deal with your stress levels so that you're not crushing your sex life with a drug. But if it is a situation where you're in like a health, you have health issues and you're struggling. Like what would you recommend for somebody as, maybe you can touch on your story a little bit. I totally understand.
I have crumbs. And I'm going to think about crumbs. You're either pooping or throwing up every day. And that definitely doesn't make you feel sexy.
You know, in that time, if your stomach gets descended, it's not a fun disease by any means. You also have chronic fatigue. So there are plenty of days when I'm like, I'm so horny, but I'm also so tired. Do I have an orgasm or do I get a sleep?
And I compromise. Like I understand that my body is tired and it's telling me it's tired for a reason. And so instead of having this huge, like, I'm so tired, I can't ever get laid. I guess I'd compromise.
I'll have sex or, you know, or masturbate, whatever. And then I'll go to sleep. But I'm not going to try to force my body to have this hour-long issue, you know, like when I'm tired and not really that into it. But I still make sure that I do have orgasms of some type because it's good for your, it's just good for your normal levels, for your sleep.
I mean, you're covering everything. It's going to keep your brain from you screaming at some random person in the grocery store. It's weird that that's the one thing that we have to keep us saying, but it is. And it also keeps your partner communicate that with your partner that, you know, hey, I, you know, have X, Y, and Z, but with using X, Y, E, bipolar, you know, even if it's something more like mine that's a nutrition base, I would hope that your partner can work on that with you.
I mean, I went through chemo and radiation and while I wasn't having the best sex life, I still tried to make sure that at least was taking care of myself because it just kind of gives you a little pick up and go, you know. So something like forcing it and I don't mean forcing it in like a bad way. I mean, like making yourself do something like go to the gym and then come home, take a shower, masturbate, go to the gym, come home, take a shower, perhaps sex, whatever your situation might be, is going to get you into a better routine of that and over time it's going to help you. It's going to help you mentally and physically just to feel good, you know.
Yep. And with the holiday season coming around, like I would recommend I used to do like food raw photography for people. And I know that you're like very, very good. This is like your whole livelihood right now.
It's like you're so artistic and creative. I love looking at your images, but like that kind of thing, like doing something like that for yourself, like going and getting dolled up and like getting a photo shoot of yourself to get to your man or your girlfriend or whoever it is, Christmas, so that like you can feel really good and then give them a gift to make them feel good. And it's just something that like makes, makes for a good sex. Oh, yeah.
You know, interaction. I think like women, I think that a lot of times we tend to need this like, or we think we do, we need like this huge scenario, like we have to do this cute outfit, like whenever they come home and there's like food ready and you know what I mean? But I've learned like as I've gotten older and I've had a lot less time on my hands. At like for a moment, things are great.
Like for instance, I was at, I probably could have been arrested, but luckily I wasn't, I was at a movie theater and they had a photo. I was like, okay, well, it doesn't just look just on the outside. I'm going to go in there. I'm just going to like take off my shirt and take really funny pictures and I'm going to leave them somewhere for Nick.
Like, not only make you feel good, but then it kind of, you know, it gets then riled up too to help you feel sexy because if a dude is just like wanting to hang and go, you're never going to feel, you know, very, very good to, I like that a lot. I feel like I'm so, like everybody's always focused on everything else. I forget about her. So, I do something fun, right?
What I wanted for Christmas was asking what I wanted. I said, I just want someone to watch Callie for like a whole night and part of the next morning so we could just like go downtown and get like shit faced, make out in weird places and have strange things. That's all I wanted. Keep your purses and all your bullshit.
You want to free my gear yourself. I'll tell everybody where they can find you and they can find your artwork and where they should follow you, your Instagram, all that stuff. So I have two Instagrams. I have one that is a little bit of everything.
It's a little bit of lifestyle stuff. Now it's not getting healthier to have a lot more like gym stuff and diet and nutrition stuff on there. That one is at Denise underscore DEUX. So it's Denise do and then my only sexual Instagram is Denise dot greenway and I actually just built my own website.
I'm so tired of having my pictures on some of the different sites and so I built my own website and I have like I think it's got up to over 700 images that I've loaded up just to me screen my dot com and if I like some other model message me that are interested in doing that type of thing as well, you know, opening up their own whether it's lingerie side or whatever. If you have any questions about that scale or if you need help finding a photographer, I can help you. Well, I am going to link all that in the description here so I can find you and thank you so much for talking to us and helping everybody with their lives. That's awesome.
Alright lady, I'll talk to you. Bye. Bye. Bye.
Bye.