Listener question: oneness

Listener question: I can't see my head except when I look in the mirror. So when I see someone else's face, I don't think, that's me. Is that because we learned this? We are all one  means:  we are all one in the way the systems works? Not in form. So to realise that is were forgiveness starts? You are not doing this to me, you are just doing (in form). Or there is just doing and here it is seen as done by another person.Like someone says: you are stupid, you shouldn't have done that. That is just what there is and without making it personal, both sides, a fluid reaction will come? And if not I can see that I made it personal. And the more I see that, the more it will fade away?