Listener question: resistance or doormat?

Listener question: Resistance is felt in this notion of that everything that is showing up is an exact mirror of ourselves. So if we stop reacting to aggression aimed at us, isn’t there a risk of being treated like a doormat? Although instantly I see this is the same dual perspective. So i need to stay still with these aggressions to see more about the dual dynamics in it? There is a deep fear/hurt in being guilty for everything, so it’s Hard to stay still with that. And the question arises how do people do it, the ones that seemingly ooze natural agency, natural presence and power, who would never be treated like that? Maybe again that question comes from the same perception? In some spiritual circles internal rage is seen a life force of agency if harnessed and used in constructive ways, like setting boundaries and making sure this bodymind is treated with respect. Maybe you could speak to that if it makes sense?