Listener question: what about violence ?

Listener question: I just listened to the latest video and podcast that you sent out and feel somewhat clearer about this whole thing to do with our ‘shadow’Basically my understanding is that whatever I see ‘out there’ is simply a reflection of what I have going on ‘in here’ So the only thing for me to do if I am having a reaction to something or someone is to look for where in myself I am not being my True Self…is that right?If so, can you help me see how this could possibly apply if I or someone close to me or a child had been sexually abused or murdered?This is not something I have ever thought I would even be remotely interested in seeing, but somehow I can feel the freedom it would offer to be able to even consider this possibility.